Ok I know that most women complain about the opposite problem of cumming too quicik. My husband and I have happy and healthy sex life as much as we can around kids work and family life, and are very much in love with eachother.
When we have the opportunity we enjoy a good 2 hour sex session and we can keep it going a long time (not always full penetrative sex we're not athletes or anything) but we like it to last.
The only problem is wa don't always have this much time to spare and I would love the occasional quickie first thing in the morning or just some opportune snatched moment in the day when the kids aren't arround, but My OH can't cum if we only hyave 15 mins to spare. Not only that but even when we have an hour or more he very rarely cums inside me and I have to finish him off with my hand or mouth.
Does anyone else have this problme or does anyone have any helpful suggestions as I would love to have the odd quickie like we used to as this hasn't always been a problem but it has for quite a few years now.
We've encountered this on a couple of occasions, if Mrs Scarlet wants me to come quickly she usually puts a finger up my bum - always does the trick (for us)
Hi Mrs Average! As we discussed in a previous thread, my partner is the same. He is always happy to have a quickie, but he does not come, even if I give him head, or masturbate him. That's ok, he still enjoys them, and loves to see me come. I count myself as very lucky.
He does come inside me, though, if we have enough time; I would miss it if it did not. Men take longer when they grow older; I don't know if there is anything that you can do about that. There are worse problems to have, though. You still enjoy having sex after being married for years, that's not to be taken for granted.
Aww thanks I know we're very lucky but he only cums inside me maybe at the most 3 or 4 times a year on a weekl basis it's usually finishing him off outside of me.
He can make me cum when he's inside me just not the other way round. Yes we are greatful for what we have, we're only in our 30's just miss a nice quickie that's all. :-(
I would see the two problems as separated, even if they are unquestionably connected.
For the quickies, if he does not find it frustrating you can just do them without him coming. I know it's not as nice, but as I was saying that's what we do, and it works.
The other problem is that he has a hard time coming inside you. Well, one difference between a manual and vaginal sex is that a hand feels a lot tighter around the penis than a vagina. The same is true for oral, to some extent. When you suck him, does your husband like you to exert a lot of suction? If so, it may be that your vagina is just not tight enough to make him come. This does not mean that it is loose, it's just the different feeling.
Thanks I'm sure you're right, as for a quickie without coming it's never an option for him I'm afraid which I guess is why it get to be such an ordeal at times.
If Georgina is right about not being tight enough then i would recomend purchasing a pair of kegel balls. They will tighten you up and might help quite a bit.
Is he masturbating regularly? I know that can slow me (and most other guys) down badly.
Another possibility could be what I think is known as "porn-creep". It's an effect that can cause guys to struggle to cum during regular sex if they watch more extreme acts when viewing porn.
Other than that, the finger in the bottom trick always does it for me. Does he have any particular kinks that you can play to? If I feel like I'm not going to cum, fast enough just the thought of her sitting on my face afterwards gets me up to speed regardless of whether or not she actually does this.
Gees a "porn-creep" what an endeering turn of phrase!!
We do quite a bit of kinky stuff and have sex nearly everyday which I don't think is excessive, not usually more than 5 times a week. The days we don't he masturbates, so maybe I'll ask him not to and try the finger thing too.
I sometimes have this problem but there's a few things that make it feel more intense and one my ex had had enough to satisfy she'd do them (dinner up the bum, play with my balls...) And add well as making it likely if come a lot easier it was a sign after a while of "I'm happy, now be selfish" which I think helped too
I sometimes have this problem but there's a few things that make it feel more intense and one my ex had had enough to satisfy she'd do them (dinner up the bum, play with my balls...) And add well as making it likely if come a lot easier it was a sign after a while of "I'm happy, now be selfish" which I think helped too
Auto-corrected spelling, or a kink I'd not really thought of in this context?
I sometimes have this problem but there's a few things that make it feel more intense and one my ex had had enough to satisfy she'd do them (dinner up the bum, play with my balls...) And add well as making it likely if come a lot easier it was a sign after a while of "I'm happy, now be selfish" which I think helped too
Auto-corrected spelling, or a kink I'd not really thought of in this context?
Ok I know that most women complain about the opposite problem of cumming too quicik. My husband and I have happy and healthy sex life as much as we can around kids work and family life, and are very much in love with eachother.
When we have the opportunity we enjoy a good 2 hour sex session and we can keep it going a long time (not always full penetrative sex we're not athletes or anything) but we like it to last.
The only problem is wa don't always have this much time to spare and I would love the occasional quickie first thing in the morning or just some opportune snatched moment in the day when the kids aren't arround, but My OH can't cum if we only hyave 15 mins to spare. Not only that but even when we have an hour or more he very rarely cums inside me and I have to finish him off with my hand or mouth.
Does anyone else have this problme or does anyone have any helpful suggestions as I would love to have the odd quickie like we used to as this hasn't always been a problem but it has for quite a few years now.
Thanks x
I've had problems recently taking ages, maybe was down to certain type of condoms we used so believe it or not I just faked it to save her feelings.
I think its a case of finding whatever it is that pushes him "over the edge".. Lets face it it is usually something above the neck rather than below the waist that makes a guy cum. Find out his biggest turn ons i.e talking dirty then when you want him to cum just give hom an overload of that!
Definitely don't let him cum when you're not with him (put him in a chastisy belt if needed!lol) but this will ensure that he is 'ready' to cum and that his body prepares itself for release. Then, perhaps spend a whole day winding him up. Little touches and squeezes, maybe a dip in the pond (if you get me ;) ) - that way his balls will also be preparing to empty. This should enable swifter proceedings when you're ready to pounce on him!
Good luck! Definitely finger up the bum too, he'll come in no time!
I think its a case of finding whatever it is that pushes him "over the edge".. Lets face it it is usually something above the neck rather than below the waist that makes a guy cum. Find out his biggest turn ons i.e talking dirty then when you want him to cum just give hom an overload of that!
I'd have to agree with that. I find hubby goes over the edge when the filthy words start to come from my mouth. (That or the finger up the bum as Wildthing says!)