I guess this thread would be better as a pinned one written by a responsible person from LH (not an ageing reprobate like me) but from comments on a couple of recent threads it seems there are quite a few of us in our 5th, 6th or 7th decades, maybe older, who are slightly reticent about the whole idea of sex toys and who might benefit from some encouragement that they are not too old and are in fact the people who can benefit most from a perhaps somewhat belated foray into sex toys.
To kick things off I thought I should write a bit about us and some of what we have benefited from. We were a decidedly vanilla couple up until our mid forties (back in the late 90s) when we finally started to overcome our rather prudish upbringings and since then have given many types of toy and kink a try.
Lubes - We tend to overlook how much these have revolutionised our sex lives. Back in the 1970s lubes were rubbish - there was basically one brand, it dried out to the consistency of Evo-Stik in a few minutes and I doubt most couples got past using it a couple of times. Modern lubes are brilliant. We use some water-based (great for making things super slick) and silicone (that have the staying power to last for hours). Since most sex toys need or are better with lube its really the first purchase you need to make.
Cock rings - These have got to be the best toy for having a low intimidation factor and work way better than you could believe if you have never tried any. The super stretchy ones with vibrators are the most common but since Mrs G is not into vibrators our favourites are the thick silicone set sold by LH - see:-
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=32874
The right size one of these worn behind the balls is a great erection aid and can turn what would be a not very serviceable semi into a raging boner. deep penetration with a ring can bring the ring into contact with the lady's clit with excellent results. There are lots of good threads on the topic too for example:-
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-toys/1440313-cock-ring/
Strapons - Definitely further up the intimidation scale but we have steadily increased how much we use these. We started with Mrs G using one on me and there is a great thread on the subject here:-
but more recently I have increasingly used one on Mrs G. Its a great way to go if if a serviceable erection is proving elusive (I find using one so erotic it usually kick-starts my gear into full working order anyway). A short thread on this here:-
Chastity devices - Why, you may well ask, would you want to lock away and inhibit erections when we are hoping to encourage them. Well, for us, part of the answer is that when wearing a chastity device the slightest arousal becomes much more apparent and intense so, if you think that a kiss from your wife no longer gets you going the wearing of a chastity device for a few hours might surprise you. We also love the extended foreplay it give with us both being somewhat frustrated by the barrier and this brings back the sorts of feelings we haven't had since before our relationship was consummated (a very long time ago!).
I hope that is enough to kick-start this topic and not so much it frightens anyone off!