Me & the other half have ordered this strap-on kit as first timer. https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/p/lovehoney-beginners-unisex-strap-on-harness-kit-with-5-inch-pegging-dildo/45838.html
What advice do you have for each gender? People’s experiences would help with this massively.
Thanks!
If you have never used anal toys before start small snd use plenty of lubrication.
For the first couple of tries it may be better if you sit astride your partner in the ‘cowgirl’ position.
That way you can control the speed, depth and angle of penetration.
Warming up with a small butt plug may help too.
If she wants to be in control then
Doggy with me on my hands and knees.
Spooning where she takes me from behind.
Bent over the kitchen sink or worktop while she stands behind me.
Me on my back with my bum raised on a wedge cushion and my legs held back in a neck to thigh harness and her kneeling between my legs.
I like to be on my back, legs over her shoulders. This position seems the best for me, as she is in control and my prostate is stimulated the best in this position.
Communication is key. Talk about what each of you like about pegging and build from there. A no go? Don’t rely on porn as a guide to pegging. Porn is unrealistic. Communication is key.
Go slowly and if it’s painful stop.
You can get small syringes (from LH) to inject lubricant in there first if it’s too tight.
We bought one similar to that a few months ago, it had the 5 inch and a much larger dildo. We have used the five inch one a few times with plenty of lube. We tried the larger one but i wasnt ready for that yet. Its very enjoyable when the wife has it on and gives it to me doggy style.
I second the syringes. We’ve got loads of them - we need it given our pegging sessions.
If that harness doesn’t quite work for you, don’t give up. We took 4 harnesses to find the one that is mind-blowing for me to wear. They are all subtly different, as are your bits, so one size will never fit everyone.
Lots of lube. If in doubt, add more lube.
As for position (for shagging him), he loves him face down and me on top of him driving down. I love him on his back with his legs on my shoulders - feels more intimate. Room for both in your average session.
Finally, don’t get disheartened. It will suddenly click and be amazing.
Hi!
So im not sure how great my info will be since i just started getting pegged a few months ago by my friend.
Like others said, comunication is big so she knows what feels good and what doesn’t.
I also got a love honey one, similar to that one and its been great. No issues with it fitting her or confort issues.
Warming up is a big thing for me, if not then it doesn’t end up working out. Normally she starts with rimming and her finger. We recently started using a lube with lidocaine. Helps out a lot to get started. (Remember, it will take several mins to kick in)
My go to position to start is me on my stomach. This way she can lay on me untill im relaxed. Thats another big thing for me to make it work. Once youre relaxed it makes it so easy and fun to take it.
Neither of us have never done this before but now she loves it.
Another thing is try all different didlos. I bought the bright blue doc Johnson on here and its my favorite so far. The type of silicone it is makes it very friction free which helps
Hope any of that helps!