How would you recommend introducing but plug to the bedroom. For me that is, she’s not interested in butt play. Like if I just had it in before a doing it, bit embarrassing for me personally any tips or how you’ve done it
When you and your partner have a minute to yourselves say to her “hey, I’ve been thinking about trying a butt plug. How would you feel if I used one during sex?” Or “hey so I was curious about butt plugs and tried one out. I enjoyed using it. How would you feel if I used it during sex?”
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Having trust and intamcy and not feeling self conscious with your partner is paramount I found. Initially OH was inn no way, shape or form interested in anal play. Like… Noooooo.
However, he has most certainly come around. We take things very slowly. Its something you can work up to.
I don’t think there is any need to be embarrassed about it. I mean, the prostate is right there and is such an integral part of a mans arousal. If you think it would be too embarrassing to ask straight up, why not talk dirty in the heat of the moment? Thats pretty much how we got started!
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Lot’s of good advice here, I’ve a couple of plug’s and the OH doesn’t mind them, I think it gives her the chance to tease me, however no way will I get to try to get using one. It was all about talking it through, we did try anal a few times and she wasn’t comfortable on so many levels. Talk about it it’s the way to. Go
I have just been through this myself, something I’ve been keen to try for a while with my gf, we had a long sit down about our sex life and I said it’s something I wanted to try, I was looking at various plugs on here and we ended up buying a strapless strap on, waiting for the right chance to try it because of lockdown and kids being home! I think your best best is to sit down with a few drinks and discuss it, or if you watch porn together say you both have to put on a video of something you’d like to try?
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