Hi,
I am 27 and suffer really badly with premature ejaculation. As in as soon as I'm touched or as soon as I penetrate, I will ejaculate. This has been the same since I started having sex.
I have tried delay cream, delay condoms and cock rings, none of which worked for me. I have also tried delay spray and that worked, but numbed me.
Has anyone got any advice? I think I should go to the doctor about it but I am a bit nervous. How would I know if there's an underlying medical issue?
Thanks
Afternoon and welcome. It is really sad to hear anyone mention the word 'suffer' on here, and judging by all the stuff you have tried, I don't doubt that you have.
I would go to the GP, you sound like you are starting to reach the limits of what you can try to do to manage the situation on your own. Even if other more helpful folk on here do have other suggestions, a trip to the docs to discuss the possibility of any underlying conditions is worth exploring I think?
Best of luck, I hope the situation improves.
I know my hubby suffers with this from time to time, especially if we haven't had sex in a while. It must be so frustrating for you for it to happen so frequently.
Do you think it's over-excitement, stress or just more of a natural reflex thing? (that you just wish didn't occur so often?)
Please do see your doctor as this is clearly worrying you. In the meantime, I hope someone on the forums can help you or advise you. Sorry I'm not much help in this matter, I know you've tried the obvious remedies.
Take care. xx
Wow!, great advice from Alicia4Ever! 😊
As I've wriiten elsewhere on these forums, I have had issues with premature ejaculation, especially the first few times having sex with a new partner. Delay condoms helped me, but you say they haven't worked for you. Another trick I've used is to enter her fairly early on, before I got too excited (provided she were ready, of course), then pull out for a while and enter her again later. That way, even if the second time I came pretty quickly, I would at least have spent longer inside her during the whole session. But above all, don't lose heart. I hope that you have an understanding partner and that ypu can work through this together, knowing also that there is a lot of pleasure you can give apart from penetration.
Sometimes it’s more of a mental over excitement than a physical one which means creams and balms won’t help much, using condoms will always desensitise your penis a bit which can help. But I would first tell yourself that this isn’t something which singles you out and many men feel the same. You may have friends who say they last a lifetime and are God’s gift in the bedroom, and porn may give you a view that men can perform for 45 minutes in multiple positions with multiple people... but that’s all acting and they use some very drastic techniques.
My first step would be to make sure you don’t go into situation with a loaded barrel, a lot of people have a solo session a few hours before to make things a little less intense. This works wonders if it’s been a while, another technique you can try is edging yourself. Simply masturbate until your almost at the critical point and then stop, and walk away from the situation, do this again and again to see if it improves your stamina. Whenever I go into a session with my partner and I feel it’s going to happen I tend to try and take my mind off the situation, it sounds bad but I focus on sums or a shopping list for a few minutes until it’s time for the big finale. Remember that no one can hear what’s being said in your head!
The last thing is to not stress and maybe accept that this is how the body works, you can see sex therapists and try lots of creams and sprays but at the end of the day sex shouldn’t be a place to stress and upset yourself. You need to enjoy it and maybe just focus on your partner, I know for a fact that a lot of people would much prefer 80% oral sex and then 20% of the time intercourse. Also by giving your partner oral you will get them closer to orgasm which will mean less time is required. Just remember this is only a problem if you make it a problem, don’t get yourself caught up on something like this as someone who loves you won’t care and will accept you in every aspect.