As I'm sure some of you have noticed - I have kids! At this stage in their lives (6yrs and 3yrs) they're such a large part of my life that its kinds of difficult to separate myself from them ;o}
Obviously they've had a fairly major impact on our sex lives so far. Firstly I had PND (Post Natal Depression) and both of them were such appalling sleepers to start with that we were permanently knackered and sex was the last thing on our minds. When we eventually emerged from that my libido had done a runner and I felt so mummified I couldn't imagine ever getting it back.
Eventually it became clear that situation was not sustainable and I had to do something about it. With the aid of LH toys and these forums (and a bit of erotic fiction!) things are going a lot better.
However, we still feel very much restrained by the kids. Its generally not possible to make love during their waking hours. Its 8.30pm by the time they're in bed and hubby is away mon/tue/wed eve so we have limited opportunities - we do try to make the most of them. Hubby in particular is not up for anything when the kids are awake... Furthermore, I've recently discovered that I love to be spanked and we've done that after the kids have gone to bed but I'm paranoid one of them will hear us and come to investigate (nightmare scenario IMO). Luckily we have a large house with a spare room one floor up and not above the kids but I still worry, so we don't do it often.
Now we like variety, in fact I feel its essential to keep the desire going, so we like making love in the lounge or garden (its secluded) of an evening. Then I begin to wonder - what happens as the kids get older and are going to bed later and later and need ferrying around? How do parents manage to continue to have a regular and varied love life?
Those of you who have kids, have you had similar experiences and can you reassure me that its possible to keep up your sex life - and let me know your top tips? - thanks!
(ps - apologies for the marathon post...)