Sounds great @KentCouple1990 
It’s brill that you have good communication and are able to discuss your fantasies openly.
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100%, we’ve been together for so long now we are comfortable to chat about pretty much anything. We have done a lot as well in the bedroom so it’s nice to add something new once in a while.
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@KentCouple1990 wow that gloryhole roleplay is a great idea. Excited to hear what you come up with. We have a blind fold and have used it once or twice, but something about having a physical barrier in addition to the surprise factor of not being able to see what is going to happen seems so much hotter.
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I’ve been working on doing some more self-led prostate play lately, but had a really frustrating experience with it recently and have shied away from it since. Prior to that I was toying around once every other day for about a week whenever I had a chance to hop in the shower and go at it but have yet to get another p-spot orgasm. I think I might just need to relax a little more, but hard to do in the house these days.
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That exactly what I want that physical barrier. The thought of just putting my penis through a hole for some fun is a MASSIVE turn on.
I watch so many videos of it being done was loved it.
I’m like you too in the fact I’m searching for that P spot orgasm. I just can’t seem to find it despite numerous attempts. I think because I’ve read on here it’s amazing it makes me want it even more. I hope you are successful 
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I’ve read this so many times and it sound amazing. Other half is very lucky. I would say sexual goal competed!
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@KentCouple1990 Yeah, something about just being used is so hot to me, especially since my wife is not very dominating.
I’ve had one, so I know they are real! I had been going at it for probably 30 minutes or more, lying on my back on the bed when it happened and I also had the house to myself, so maybe I just need some patience and a greater feeling of peace/solitude.
I am tempted to get a proper p-spot vibe as I’ve only got a beginners p-spot kit with smaller plugs/probes, a slim anal dildo (which I’ve yet to try, to be honest), and then a larger dildo which I’ve briefly used on myself once and a rabbit vibe which is what got me off that one time, but I don’t really want to use it on myself as it was more a gift for my wife that I had borrowed, although she doesn’t really use it unless I take it out of the toy chest when we’re playing together. I’ve stashed it in our bathroom next to her kegel balls and sent her a link on the health benefits of masturbation so maybe she’ll start using it on her own.
Update: screw it, a remote-control p-spot vibe is 50% off as the deal of the day and I’ve got some points saved up, so I ordered it 
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I love hearing everyone else’s goals and updates too
@KentCouple1990 It’s funny, when I was writing that last post, I thought it sounded weird to say I accomplished blow jobs as if I’ve done it and now I’m done with them 
but it does feel good to get to a point I wanted to be at 
@ScorpioDaddy Hope you like it! (I am also a deal of the day sucker 
)
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@PKH I’m actually very excited about this purchase as I think it might be what gets me to be comfortable doing prostate play with my wife! I can just pop it in and hand her the remote. In fact, maybe she can slip in her remote love egg at the same time and then we can try to play a game where we make each other cum without even touching each other 
…although we’ll probably just end up with some PIV to finish like we usually do because that’s just too much fun 
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She’ll probably like using it on you as much as you will like it 
Nothing wrong with that!
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My goals are changing so fast at the moment as they’re all happening.
After 10 years of marriage and very little sex open communication has changed everything.
My goal is to make my wife go insane with pleasure.
After using a rabbit on her while she goes down on me I’ve ordered a 6” and 8” suction dildo. The goal is to try these on her and see if she opens up more on her fantasies.
I got a 7” vibrator that we’re waiting try as it’s that time of the month.
I jokingly put in my mouth like a blow job for all of two seconds and my wife immediately asked why I did it.
She has said she doesn’t want anything up her ass but we talked and I mentioned I’d read that something in the ass and vagina can give incredible pleasure, she did seem slightly intrigued.
She also said if I wanted to rabbit in my ass she’d be happy for us to try.
I’ve never even hinted at this.
From barely any sex and when we did have sex it being extremely tame to this in 8 weeks is crazy.
My goal is to get my wife to open up, for her to do whatever she wants, (I’d try pretty much anything as long as it isn’t painful), I want to try the suction dildo’s on my wife and make her go crazy with pleasure.
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Anal Sex Update - ok, this one is done too! 
Sorry in advance, this is a long one! I know lots of people on here have anal sex regularly, so I feel like it isn’t that big of a deal that I finally did it, but just thought I’d share my experience, especially for those who have also had bad experiences that put them off anal! 
So, the biggest obstacle for this one wasn’t just getting stretched out enough to take a cock, but mentally overcoming the fear of pain that kept me from being relaxed enough to enjoy anal play.
From the start, I preferred letting my husband do the work with his fingers and toys behind me while I leaned forward on my knees or between my legs while on my back, but that was only during foreplay before we’d have piv sex, so it was only once a week, sometimes twice, and when solo, I’d finger myself (one finger in a finger cot). Several weeks ago, my nails grew out too long to comfortably finger my own ass without feeling like I was going to slice it open 
so I started using toys when solo, but I couldn’t relax because I felt like I really had to contort myself to reach my ass, and I ended up hurting myself a little, it felt like I gave myself a silicone burn 
I know I’m supposed to use a ton of lube, and I felt like I did, but my ass was like a squeegee just wiping the lube off the toy while I’d be pushing it in and while pulling it out… It was really uncomfortable, so I got a little discouraged. I went on a little LH hunt looking for a new plug because the ones I had weren’t working for me. Because I was feeling like I couldn’t really do anal play solo, I asked my husband if he would just finger me a little every day, even if he wasn’t in the mood, just to give me a bit of a stretch 
I showed him my posts on this thread because he was starting to wonder why I had gotten so obsessed with my ass He was really surprised! After that, sometimes I’d forget, and he’d grin and ask me, Wanna do some butt training? or just, Can I play with your butt? I got to where I could take two of his fingers pretty comfortably during foreplay without feeling any fear or nervousness when they would penetrate.
anal sex not to completion - Last week, he had two fingers in while I was on my back using my womanizer on my clit. I was feeling good and wanted to try something a little bigger and firmer, so I asked him to try putting in my glass dildo since it has a pretty narrow girth (3.5”). Since it doesn’t have a flared base, he held one end securely (with a non-lubed hand ) and only let it penetrate about a third of its length. It felt quite good. I didn’t feel any pain from friction, and the stretch was comfortable. The nubs on the dildo felt good bumping and rubbing me as they were twisted and were slowly going in and out. After I had a nice orgasm, I thought, That didn’t hurt, and I’m relaxed, I bet I could take him 
He lubed up his cock, thrilled to not wear a condom, and pressed in slowly about halfway and did some slow thrusts. I couldn’t believe that it didn’t hurt, but there was more of a stretching sensation than before, so I started tensing up and got scared it would hurt so he pulled out and finished with his hand while the other hand had fingers back in my butt. The next day, my new butt plug arrived in the mail 
so I spent a few days doing solo anal play with it!
anal sex to completion - This past weekend, we were ready to try again I wore my plug for about an hour while I was working on a review while he was finishing up work, then when he was ready, I laid on my back and let him play with the plug a bit - pulling it out and pushing it in, holding it right before it pops out and pushing it back in, twisting it and rubbing it against the walls inside. Because I had been wearing the plug, two fingers slid in easily, so he lubed up a third finger to really stretch me out. It didn’t hurt, but the stretch two knuckles deep was a little uncomfortable, so he pulled them out a little and twisted them more slowly, and I was fine He wanted to try to penetrate in doggy, so I got on my knees while he lubed up his cock. I tried to get in a good position to hold my clit vibe in place because I wanted to be able to have an orgasm while he was in my ass (the times we did anal in the past, he came and I just laid there until he was done). I swear, it was the longest penetrative session we’ve ever had because usually piv, I like it hard and fast. He was moving really slowly because he was worried about hurting me (afterward, he said he was trying so hard not to cum ). It felt so sensual. He kept kissing my back and neck, which he never does 
The stretching didn’t hurt at all, and he was able to get in pretty deep, but because he was still moving slowly, it didn’t hurt. I was trying to just focus on his movements and on the sensation on my clit. I was right on the edge for a while and I kept thinking, I’m almost there, I hope he doesn’t cum, and I finally tipped over the edge and climaxed 
and I know he was so relieved that he could finally blow his load 
We had so much sex in the couple weeks leading up to this… (pro tip: ask your husband to finger your ass once daily without planning on sex to follow, and he will get horny and want to have sex more just kidding, but really…) He said he would’ve cum in 10 seconds if we hadn’t been so sexually active the past few weeks. Anyways, anal play is here to stay! There will be lots of plug wearing and fingering in my future. We probably won’t have anal sex super often, but probably whenever he wants it, he’ll get it (with plenty of prep of course) 
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Fabulous write-up @PKH. That’s how to do it! I’ve found it to be very addictive, in fact I love it more than PIV these days.
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You can apply some lube to inside yourself, as well as the toy, and that can help overcome the squeegee effect. There are also the lube syringes you can prep up beforehand to make re-applying a bit smoother during too.
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I love your determination to succeed and its good you have good support from your husband. You explain things so well and the take things slowly theme is definitely the right way. You have now overcome this and hopefully you will continue and things will only get better and better. I’m well impressed. Well done
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Thanks for this @PKH. The detail is great. I’m really curious about trying anal and this covers a lot of my hang ups/questions.
The finger cots are a great recommendation, I’ve never seen these before! (what a sheltered, vanilla life I lead 
). These are going in my basket!
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That’s a brilliant idea @PKH. I do hope you reach your goals and find more.
Not knowing either of you I can’t advise you telling you husband, but I will say that any communication is important. My wife and I are rediscovering our sexuality and its brill. However, I have my goals, and history to deal with, and so does she, but we talk. There have been some bumps in the road, but we’re still travelling.
My current person goal was to see if I liked my bum played with and filled with a toy (which has been a fantasy for ages) and I did. I’m now progressing to other toys and experiences. I was sure my wife wasn’t interested, but she has been so supportive and that has made it easier for me.
Keep going.
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Sorry to hear that @muffinmuffinmuffin . I will say that if you’ve got the confidence to put that on here, you have the confidence to do anything.
Go for it. Sending positive thoughts.
My new sexual goal is to take much larger toys anal. Preferably through pegging but solo play works too
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