Hi guys, so i’m essentially looking for recommendations on how to enhance my solo play. Basically, my partner is VERY vanilla, and that is fine. I am not about to force him to do anything he doesn’t want to do. I however, am not. It is worth mentioning that he is the only man i’ve ever slept with, and theres so many things that I want to try and explore (anal being the main one but i’ve mentioned this before and he isn’t into it). He is very much into missionary only and occasionally with me on top however that does nothing for me if i’m honest. He knows I have toys (a couple of butt plugs and dildos) that I use by myself and he says he doesn’t have an issue with that. So I am just looking for ideas for myself as to how I can spruce up my alone time as currently i’m never fully…satisfied.
Sorry for the rambling i’m really hoping someone has some tips/suggestions! Xx
What kind of things are you considering for solo time? If you can give us the sort of toys you’d be interested in, it’s easier to give recommendations and advice
Clit suction? Bullet? Internal vibrators? Love eggs? Nipple toys?
Maybe try dressing up? See what you enjoy wearing to feel more turned on
There are more than enough toys to explore. Larger/vibrating/thrusting dildos… for your front and back end! Try different butt plugs from larger size or different material (glass/metal)
There’s nipple play to explore or a seemingly massive abundance of clit toys out there
I would give anything a go to be honest. I have never been able to orgasm through penetrative, so I need to have clit stimulation to get me there so that is a must. I also really want to experiment with anal, as I say I have a few butt plugs of varying sizes so i guess the next step would be a dildo. I’m honestly open to giving anything a try so throw me any suggestions haha
I have tried mentioning to him before ways we could spruce things up etc but he doesn’t seem interested to be honest. I do think a conversation needs to be had however as i’m not sure i can live out my life in the way I am doing now…
My sex life was very dull years ago and we talked one night and he let slip what his kink was - he wanted to wear knickers and wanted more oral sex - from this led into so much more over time - we do everything now and it’s just lush
I feel you need to talk and offer different things - crossdressing/spanking /oral / bdsm/ role reversal- I’m sure once he starts it will be just great - possibly watch a bit of porn together and see if he would like to recreate the acts
As a soloist 99% of the time I found that fantasies help steer me into new play time . For me sexy lingerie gets me warmed up . Lace and silky material sliding across my nipples and cock work a treat . My wife is aware of almost all my fantasies , but physiclly unable to participate . Being a part time nudist lends itself to my enjoyment . I enjoy nipple suckers immensely along with much anal play . I browse porn and see something hot and do my best to replicate it by myself . Nice thing about fantasies is there are no limits . I imagine myself participating in a particular video . I also really like my home made porn of watching myself enjoying a climax or riding a dildo . My wife would be up for much of the things I like or want to try , she just can’t . Good luck !
From a male perspective I like to have a wank day every so often. Home alone and naked all day. This in its self is such a turn on especially if you can go outside in the garden without being seen. The sun always gets you in the mood. Pleanty of toys and edging to near climax then stopping, this gets you so horny. You can also try other types of stimulation ie porn, vibrating panties and best of all nipple clamps which can be vibrating. The aim is turn yourself on for as long as you can without orgasm until you can stand it know more. You will then explode I can assure you.
@aimee123 - Jealous of your drive and interests. I think I have been sexually mismatched with Mrs. Val… she barely cares for sex let alone something new or letting herself go. Keep up and keep trying - you ladies have a power of persuasion that is undeniable.
Although our sex life is getting better since our talk, if Mrs. Val asked me for anal I’d think she was off her rocker… but I would oblige…
A previous partner asked me once, and I said no I wasn’t keen. I was nervous back then, and didn’t want to force anyone into things … and thought she was just asking cos she thought I’d like to.
I finally had the courage to admit I was interested, and told her why I’d initially said no. After that, it became a ‘now and then’ thing which we both really enjoyed.
… maybe your guy isn’t really vanilla. Maybe he’s just stuck in a rut of thinking he has to be this clean, proper guy … ?? Just a thought.
I’ll be honest i’ve never really thought of it this way before. If he was to divulge to me what his fantasies/kinks are I would definitely be open to trying them, just as I would like him to be the same towards mine. This might be something I need to put some thought into, thank you for the insight!
