Me and my partner are both inexperienced in the bedroom.
I suggested getting a toy too try and spice things up on some recommendations I brought a durex bullet and a vibrating rabbit cock ring we’ve been using these but they don’t seem to work for us the ring helps me last longer but the bullet doesn’t seem to do anything for my OH.
We were out shopping one day and ended up in a shop that sold adult toys so we brought a wireless boost wand, problem is it doesn’t seem to do anything for the OH I’ve asked her if things were ok and if it felt nice ect but I don’t get much out of it so I turn the toy off.
We brought another cock ring similar to the first one this is a rechargeable one think the first one broke or the batteries were gone but even with the new ring it doesn’t seem to do anything for my OH, I know toys ain’t for everyone but I’m at a loss she’s never tried them out for herself and she’s not tried to manual herself before this is where the lack of experience comes in I’ve tried to talk to her tried to take things slow but it’s like she wants it over quickly than actually speed time to enjoy things I’ve asked for tips to use toys which I’ve brought some different lubes like tingle warmth but I don’t think they help much
Any ideas what to try next do I give up on the toys or try and stick with it
1: clit sucker toy
2: buy a clit sucker toy
3: did I mention a clit sucker?
My OH can get there ok with general vibrators … but once I bought her a We-Vibe Melt she was forever changed!
Lots of different ones on LH. They’re amazing.
Wifey also has had the tendency to want to ‘get to the finish line’ … it took a while for her to feel comfortable, and now she often likes to see how long she can delay things … just stay awesome, loving and curious
Firstly - there are loads of toys out there and it’s not always easy finding the buzz the you
Years ago I tried the high street rabbit toy - it cost £60 and came with all whistles and bells - but I found it just lame
As time went on I found clit vibrators my thing (as well as other things) - but took time
Also it could be an age thing- can I guess she is under 25 … if so she may not be at (or close to) her sexual peak and as time goes on she will appreciate these toys more
Possibly suggest lingerie / role play / bondage as she may be more into that
Finally - always show her love and affection- to a woman that’s a massive turn on
I love wands for tge OH and she uses it on me, glass dildo for temperature play or just normal play, gspot Vibrator for your OH? Or how about exploring anal with vibrating butt plugs etc…
Go shopping on the Lovehoney website together and see which appeals
I mean I couldn’t agree more with 1,2 or 3 the thing is they do take a bit of practice to get them right! First one we had did nothing even after a few attempts…. Then after scrolling the forum we found that lube and a decent connection is how you get from your current reality to one several levels above
Have you tried watching porn together to get some ideas? She may surprise you
I think one of the best things you could use is an app called spicer…… you download it on both of your phones and link it to each other. Then you answer the questions. Once done if your answer have matched you will see them if they haven’t you won’t. It’s a great way of finding out things you didn’t know about each other and opens up a lot to talk about. If you find it awkward to talk face to face about things you can message in the app.
There is a free part with new questions every day but if your inclined you can pay a small fee and unlock soooo much more
As you’ve said, everyone is different, different toys will work better for different people, not everyone enjoys toys at all. With cocks rings, for her to really get much from it, it either needs to be strong enough for her to feel the vibration through your penis or you need to have sex in a position/with a technique that will keep the ring in contact with her clitoris.
That all being said:
What did your partner say when you suggested toys? How enthusiastic was she? Im happy to be wrong on this, but I’m getting the feeling it’s less that the toys aren’t right and more that she isn’t into it.
You need to sit and have a proper conversation with her and find out what she wants from your sex life. You are both inexperienced, I’m guessing young and there are still a lot of mixed messages around women and sex sadly. You need to find out if it’s a nerves and/or inexperience thing holding her back or if she just isn’t that into sex.
If she does want to spice up your sex life, then maybe look at some of the games available or even something like a positions book. Nothing too crazy but some things to give you both some inspiration.
Can I ask, is it you doing the sex toy shopping? If so, why don’t you browse LH with your partner or better still let her browse on her own and buy a female friendly toy, something that she can try out on her own.
Maybe she isn’t getting much from your current selection of toys because she feels pressured to enjoy them. It maybe a good idea for you both to buy a toy each that you can try out alone and discover new orgasms, then once you know how to get the best out of your new toys try them together. Small steps towards sharing toy enhanced orgasms is the way to go. .
As has been recommended a clit sucker is mind blowing. I hope that you can enjoy toys together as they really do enhance your sex life.
Taking about what you both like, happy to try, and what’s not on the list.
Be respectful and loving to each other and having fun in the romance of things.
the thing is they do take a bit of practice to get them right! First one we had did nothing even after a few attempts…. Then after scrolling the forum we found that lube and a decent connection is how you get from your current reality to one several levels above 
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