Hi all,
Newbie to the forum and thought I’d start with a question...
How do I broach the subject of squirting with my wife? This is something that I’d love for us to be able to share but I suspect that she has some anxieties around it and I’d like some advice on how to make her feel confident enough to give it a go. I’m pretty sure that we’ve been close on a number of occasions (either using my fingers or a gspot vibe) but I think she gets freaked out with the sensation of needing to pee and asks me to withdraw.
We’re going out tonight (rate date nights always result in the filthiest sessions) and tonight might be a good night to open the discussion... even if I don’t get any replies I may broach it anyway and will update after...
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Plenty of posts in regards to squirting and advice around speaking about the subject on these boards, so may be worth a read.
Unfortunately though if you have some anxieties in regards to something like
Squirting it’s actually a brick wall until you can emotinally and physically overcome them. My ex partner had real issues and was so scared she would “pee all over the bed”. I never pressured her at all into doing it but she wanted to, so it would frustrate her so much. This frustration was just making things worse as she would focus on it all more and then it just wouldn’t happen. The best advice is to talk but don’t push, things like squirting will happen with experience but it really will depend on how relaxed your partner is and the technique.
If she is just as eager as you then don’t discuss it, just use the vibes and fingers till she’s ready to push onto the next level. Look over some
Websites for the best sexual positions to hit the Gspot and see if this works, I found if I use my fingers it’s almost like putting my partner in the limelight and all the attention is on her to kinda “perform” which can have a negative effect. But if we’re actually having sex and we’re both involved it’s far more relaxed for her.
Simple advice is to not put pressure on because this will do the complete opposite and make things harder for her to actually squirt. Hopefully you find some answers on here and can find a new adventure with your partner.
Thanks Alicia4Ever and LIL_KNOWN69 for pitching in, much appreciated. I’ll chat to her about it and perhaps suggest (if she’s into it) that she does a bit of searching on these forums (as I have) and reads up on it a bit - then she can decide if she’s interested or if it’s just something she wants to leave well alone. Absolutely get that not pressuring her is the right approach and I’d never consciously do so - after all it’s for her pleasure as well as mine that I want to try this out. If she’s not keen then she’s not keen, there’s plenty of other fun to be had and perhaps by sowing the seed it may be something she’s up for trying another time.
Thanks for your help!
I don't have anything to add here as all of the above is pretty good advice and as mentioned, there are quite a few threads on the topic. I just wanted to say hi + welcome.
We have found that I can squirt quite easily if Mr Spider uses a glass dildo on me whilst I use a bullet on my clit. Before we bought the glass dildo I'd never squirted with him! So - succes here! 
You need to be well hydrated and relaxed, try full body massage before trying. Two middle fingers up and down motion quite hard works well for this. 👌 I used this method & works every time.. search squirting massage on porn sites... Seymore Butts was a pro at showing this back in the day 🤫 happy 💦💦