TheQueenOfExtreme wrote:
Hi all, I was wondering if you could give me some tips and/or advice.
i am in a fairly new relationship and me and my boyfriend are having the best fun exploring each others sexual desires and preferences. We are experimenting in some light BDSM, I mostly prefer to be dominated during sex but like to switch every now and again and I have noticed that he seems to really enjoy it when I take charge over him. So I was hoping you could share with me how you would dominate/tease/tantilise your partners? I have some ideas but would like to hear others.
First off, your b/f is a lucky guy. 
Secondly, I'd kind of establish some ground rules. My missus is usually pretty "sub" (like you I guess) normally. But get her in the right mood and she can be a right bitch ... and I love it! 
One thing she does draw the line at though is anal ... "it's dirty" says she.
What we used to do (when she was up for it) was she'd use hankies etc to tie me to the bedhead and make sure I was basically in an X-shape. Then I'd be blindfolded, (towel, flannel, whatever), and she'd have free rein to "explore" my now-restrained bod. Her favourite would then be to gently stroke, running her fingertips-only down me - carefully avoiding my crotch. Oh and excessive chat would get me a light slap on the buttocks. I'd never know where that tickle would turn up next - and she didn't say anything.
When she figured I'd been tortured enough, then she'd slowly make her way up to the "fun zone" - which by now you could fly a flag from. And then with the lightest of touches she'd attend to my "flagpole" and basically anything else she fancied. The trick was the lightest of touches.
And if I was a really "good boy" then a tongue or lips might follow. SIGH!
We got a small selection of BD gear (bed restraints, small/light whip and some "costumes" - all from LH) but haven't had a chance (teenage kids in the house) to really give 'em a good going over yet. Last time though she introduced the Lelo Tantra and Lelo Sensua into that play and used a pair of used knicks of hers to blindfold me. I can't really go on with this much longer, it's too ... stimulating. 
I read somewhere that this is "adult play" and if you remember that then the advice just has to be that "whatever you do, make sure you both enjoy it - have fun!".
Now I'm going for a cold shower.