Going off a post about discussing your sex life with friends i am now curious is this something that people do regularly?
Id be interested to know especially from males do you talk about your wives? I have been in the local and heard lads bumming about a conquest but not their wives/girlfriends, they seem to keep that private from the guys I know.
As a female within my group of friends we chat a bit, not really details though, myself and one or two others are probably the most open, the rest of the group never say a word.
Oral might come up for an example and we’ll maybe say ooh enjoy, or no not for me but thats about it.
For me being a male it doesn’t come up to often. Sometimes some brief general chat or comparisons like how often we have sex. To be honest I wouldn’t mind it coming up more often and maybe more detailed practices but I guess that’s why I’m here! Lol
I also wonder how much my wife might discuss with her friends, she’s mentioned a couple things she’s told them.
I agree i feel its maybe not discussed that often hence this successful forum.
Our chat would be more jokey, someone will say they threw their back out and that will lead to a, oh doing what? That type of thing, that then leads to how often questions or general things.
We will all note though that all of our husbands have higher sex drives!
None of us have ever discussed toys, dressing up, role play etc.
I used to have a friend that I was very open with (and wouldn’t have minded being more “open” with, IYKWIM). Unfortunately, she started using my home as a creche for her kid but didn’t like it when I wouldn’t let her kid wind up my dog
As a rule though, nobody knows anything about me or what I do, they all think butter wouldn’t melt. Even had a friend tell me once that I “wouldn’t enjoy BDSM” because I’m in control of my life outside of the bedroom
Many years ago, late teens/early 20s i had a guy in our group tell me, he would love a night with me, he said he could just tell there was something under my quiet exterior and that id be kinky. Well he never got his night, wasnt my type but i remember thinking how does he know?!
It might be awkward for a bit, but I wonder if some of our friends and couples are just as kinky as us. If they are we could spend hours talking about it and getting more ideas!
One of the problems I have faced with some of men who think they want to get entangled with me is that they think I’ll be easy to subdue, because I’m a submissive woman. They don’t realise that I’m also a tomboy, raised around men, used to wrestle/train with my brother and spar with my Dad in a battle of wits and wordsmithery, who also gave me my passion for psychology. You better believe that I can hold my own when I want to
I would say me and the girls chat pretty openly about sex. However, if any of us have a partner (which is none of us currently), I guess we keep the intimate details of that pretty secret. Unless I have a genuine question about how to bring something up, partners aren’t usually mentioned. When I was in peak swinging stage, that would usually bring some hilarity to the table, those stories were the best.
I also have a purely platonic relationship with one of the guys from work and we can happily talk about sex and what we like, passed experiences etc. I always had guy friends growing up, so it’s nice that someone has come into my life who is a genuine friend and we can just chat about absolutely anything, including sex.
When I’m out with the lads, there is never any chat about our sex lives. I cannot recall there ever been an occasion when any of us has related anything concerning our sex lives.
I know what you mean, you feel more comfortably with certain people. I have one friend in the group that i think would open up more, as she is forthcoming enough about the subject of sex, but so far we have never said much.
As a male, I never discuss my sex life with my friends. My wife on the other hand does. It’s kind of how we got into pegging because one of her friends shared she and her husband did. Also the first time I rimmed her was because one of her friends shared her experience and she wanted to try.
None of my friends know the full extent of my deviant ways. One friend that I’d probably be the most open with, doesn’t want to hear about the knifeplay or needles. She shouts at me any time I mention them, it makes me laugh. My sexual partner is dying for me to just tell her, just for her reaction but she doesn’t want to know so I’m not going to go against that. She does like hearing about the other things I do.
We give each other suggestions and we can get detailed. Other people might just be told that there had been spanking, oral, etc but not specifics.
I’m pretty open with my friends. There’s one who knows the filthy specifics, and I know the details of hers too. We get ideas from each other but we also write smut and stories so it’s pretty normal for us. where as with my other close friends I am a bit more vague but certainly not a closed book, as it often makes them laugh and has actually deepened our friendship as it creates some element of trust. I don’t tell everyone though, depends on the person. My OH is fine with it, especially since I would only ever speak of him in high regard and he knows that. If he wasn’t comfortable with it I wouldn’t say a word!
