Wow, I can remember the shock when that happened to me. But he’s the past now and you’ve got a much better model.
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@Dirty-Wife bless you. Talk your feelings out with someone. Burying emotions does horrible things to your sprit x
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I’ve been learning that over the years we’ve been together, it’s hard for me to open up face to face, I find it easier in messages or writing it down, and what makes it worse is it’s one of my autism traits. I want to open up, but the words don’t come out. I hate it, I really do. He knows I find it hard and he’s so understanding.
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Ive started a journal, get it out lovely x
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You might hate it, but it actually doesnt really matter. Communicating can be verbal, written, signed… it doesnt matter so long as you find a way to do it.
Writing things down often is best, because you can read it for yourself too after the event. Which can be very therapeutic.
I remember having had an argument with my wife some 20 years ago, and for some reason i decided to write it down. I’m glad i did, it helped realise how much of a twat i was being.
I might have never given her the note the following day and might have apologised instead…
My point being that verbal communication is immediate. No looking back. Writing things down can help someone to assess their own thoughts and feelings.
Sorry you should have faced your abusive ex. My sister was abused by her ex husband, facing him wihout lamping him in social settings has been extremely hard. They had a daughter together, so sadly no getting rid of him.
@Gingerninja and @steve19 I Thought I’d bring this here as I was also in the tooth agony camp this week, horrific Sunday and Monday even with mountains of ibuprofen. Thankfully mine ended yesterday albeit with significant damage to my wallet. Gave up on trying to get an an NHS dentist, like absolute hen’s teeth round here, absolutely no chance of an apointment. Went for an emergency appointment at a private practise yesterday and now have a nice temporary filling but also zero pain during the appointment or since which is a first for me on a trip to a dentist. Wallet is £200 lighter though with a follow up root canal and crown to pay for yet 
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@steve19 I had that about 10 years ago. A tooth that was absolute agonising pain for weeks, went to dentist, took X-rays and was told nothing wrong. A week later an enormous abscess came up, went to different dentist, same company but I was then in a different city, told oh yes, clearly been very badly infected for ages, we can take it out or root canal. By that stage I just wanted it gone! Regret that choice now but c’est la vie.
I hope its nerve that’s causing the pain somehow connected to my MS I would opt for many things before root canal. I just hate/fear dentists @Peitho
I am absolutely with you! Dctors, I have no problem being prodded, stabbed, probed, whatever. Dentists, I’m terrified and probably why I hadn’t been to one since that awful experience 10 years ago until yesterday! I would take 10 spinal taps over a trip to the dentist but thankfully yesterday was much better than my childhood and teenage memories.
And apologies, reading that back… probably not what you needed to hear. I hope the reason they didn’t find anything for you was because there was nothing to find and doctors can prescribe other meds to sooth MS nerve pain.
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I showed a 20-something workmate a picture of a 60’s/70’s dentist’s surgery and she said it looked like something out of American Horror Story!
Hated the dentist as a kid, but don’t mind it nowadays.
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I would say 80’s/90’s still felt like something out of American Horror Story! 
I think all dentist were bullied as children and its their way of getting back at people. I once told a dentist when they had finished treating me. @Peitho
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I have one day to go before I can go up to the next level. I think I also have to make one more post.
What criteria are you looking at? 
I can’t see your profile but I’m assuming as you’re still fairly new you’re heading to Member status? TL2? In which case you’re miles ahead of required posting I believe.
All the info on the different Trust Levels, the requirements to get there and what they allow you to do can be seen in Trust Levels. Brenna’s OP has drop down menus for each 
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Good luck with achieving the next level. @MissTery
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You know it’s been a tough afternoon at work when your boss brings you and colleagues a glass of prosecco at your desk at 4 o’clock! Happy Friday everyone
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Sounds like a damm good boss 
I did it!! I’m next level lol
That’s great news for you, I have been around for more than 2 years and just love the chat, friendliness and how supportive everyone is to all. Its good to be able to have open conversations with folk. @MissTery
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@awkward-yet-sweet, I read a recent post of yours but now can’t find it so thought I’d post here instead. You mentioned that you didn’t like using pads and couldn’t insert tampons yourself. It’s great that you have partners that can help you with this, I can’t insert tampons either but my OH wouldn’t do it for me either. I used to use pads although I hated them because it was my only option if i wanted to leave the house. I now use period pants and find them so much better - i just thought i’d mention them in case you haven’t tried them. Obviously I don’t know what it is about pads that you don’t get on with but period pants have solved a lot of the sensory issues I had around wearing pads.
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@Gosig This meme… Kazoo gag… 
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