I don't really know where to turn for help anymore and have looked into sex therapy but its very costly and I just don't have time to go with 3 small children and a husband who works away a lot.
I wrote a list of problems last night about sex and they all have such a negative impact on my life. Everyone seems to enjoy sex or at least masturbating but its something that just doesn't come naturally to me.
I'm not really sure why I'm posting but maybe someone might be able to point me in the right direction or help me get on the right track.
I think my biggest problem is that I don't have much of a sex drive, there is usually a week in my cycle where I want sex but that's not really enough. Because of this and the fact I get zero alone time I don't masturbate, watch porn or use sex toys. I also have issues about touching myself, Its like I'm touching somebody else who doesn't want to be touched and I don't really enjoy it when I do.
The 2 things I've managed to work out that I do enjoy during sex is rough sex but we don't do that because I always bleed and me and my SO have a fetish but we don't even do it because I hate what it is.
My self esteem is at an all time low so even when we do have sex I hate it being about me, being on top and receiving oral. If on the rare occasions I make noise during sex too I end up feeling bad and stupid about it for days.
I think they are pretty much my biggest problems but I just don't know where to start trying to make them right. I know I just need to get over it and things will probably start getting better if I just have sex and masturbate more but its getting to that point I find so hard.
Its really eating away at me and I don't know if I can spend the rest of my married life with a miserable sex life and a husband who is unhappy sexually mostly because of my doing.
I'm not really sure why I'm posting but I guess getting things off my chest may help too. I've spoke to my husband many times in the past about my problems but I don't want to bother him at the miniute as hes having a really rough time at work. I really want to get better for him and also for the sake of our marriage.