Hi there, just wondering if any 1 has any hint or tips.
I've only ever been in serious relationships with my partners up until i became a new single again, since i have gained a great friend with benefits, we are always thinking of new things to try and cant really keep off each other, i think about her all day and am hard at her slightest touch, but we have had it twice that mid sex i loose my erection. I am slighty Numb across parts of my body but this is something i can work with as i enjoy the pain i can feel. What im asking is that should i try something like viagra or similar???
so, to clarify, you loose you suddenly loose your erection during sex and get this numb feeling at the same time? or is the numbness a constant thing...? if your loss of erection is accompanied by the numbness i'd urge you to go see a doctor... actually i'd say go to the docs about it anyway.. they'd be able to recommend you something a little less strong than viagra (you wouldnt need something that strong to MAINtain an erection if you can already OBtain one ^__^)
so, to clarify, you loose you suddenly loose your erection during sex and get this numb feeling at the same time? or is the numbness a constant thing...? if your loss of erection is accompanied by the numbness i'd urge you to go see a doctor... actually i'd say go to the docs about it anyway.. they'd be able to recommend you something a little less strong than viagra (you wouldnt need something that strong to MAINtain an erection if you can already OBtain one ^__^)
The Numbness is constant i've had many accidents when younger, 1 which has cause nerve damage across a good portion of my body. So i dont realise i half lost my erection as i cant feel it, the problem with this is by then its 2 late and i cant seem to get it back. It does take me awhile to ejaculate and losing my erection is causing problems. I am un sure without proper investigation but the parts of me i can feel are hypersensitive and because of this i can be very very easily aroused in these areas but in others i feel nothing at all.
I think it's quite common. The only thing you're finding difficult is knowing you've lost it. I find there are different positions that work better for me in terms of keeping a constant stimulation going. And some work too well, which is great for me, but not so good for Mrs M if she's after a long session.
Can your OH communicate with you more, perhaps? Ask her to let you know if she's feeling any loss of stimulation - could be you're getting soft. Also, keep a hand down there if you can; a fingertip should be enough to occasionally press the base of your penis and check it's still firm.
Is there anything else you're into that really turns you on besides direct stimulation? You say you enjoy a little pain play. If that gets you hard, why not try incorporating it into the middle of your session on a more regular basis?
I think just approaching this issue with your eyes open is a great way to start finding solutions - there are loads of people on these forums who for many medical reasons have had to adapt the way they have sex and plan for it. If you're sensible about things, each time it does happen you can learn from it, and try to avoid repeating the situation. It sounds like you and your friend should have no trouble trying new things until you find what will reliably work for you.