I shall disagree, in my case, the reality was everything the fantasy had been and more, but it made the situation much worse as still wasn't possible to have it.....
But this may have been a one-off and think it's probably more likely to be an anti-climax, I wish mine had have been, haha!
Same. Being in a long distance relationship I think that point has been proven. The fantasies just made me want it more. It really built up a lot of the passion and intensity.
With me, it was a case of- I have what I want.. but damn, I want it now. =P
Same. Being in a long distance relationship I think that point has been proven. The fantasies just made me want it more. It really built up a lot of the passion and intensity.
With me, it was a case of- I have what I want.. but damn, I want it now. =P
Long distance relationships do suck, but, after living with the last 3 fellas i think it's the distance that has made my relationship/ sex life work much better this time round. Because i have the desire now i didn't have before. Things are not readily available as and when i want. I like the feeling i get an hour before he turns up best, the getting ready and playing the situation out in my head. That's the best bit for me. Not for you too??
It boils down to, as a kid, did you like xmas eve or xmas day better?? lol
Long distance relationships do suck, but, after living with the last 3 fellas i think it's the distance that has made my relationship/ sex life work much better this time round. Because i have the desire now i didn't have before. Things are not readily available as and when i want. I like the feeling i get an hour before he turns up best, the getting ready and playing the situation out in my head. That's the best bit for me. Not for you too??
It boils down to, as a kid, did you like xmas eve or xmas day better?? lol
To be honest I can't liken christmas to being with my partner lol. Nice phrase though. I love the build up.. but nothing beats the reality of when it happens. With me, it's not just the sex.. It's everything that comes with it. The affection, touch, his breath etc. I can fantasise all I want. Nothing beats the real thing though.
I do agree it's still fun getting ready and "playing out the situation". =]
Same. Being in a long distance relationship I think that point has been proven. The fantasies just made me want it more. It really built up a lot of the passion and intensity.
With me, it was a case of- I have what I want.. but damn, I want it now. =P
Long distance relationships do suck, but, after living with the last 3 fellas i think it's the distance that has made my relationship/ sex life work much better this time round. Because i have the desire now i didn't have before. Things are not readily available as and when i want. I like the feeling i get an hour before he turns up best, the getting ready and playing the situation out in my head. That's the best bit for me. Not for you too??
It boils down to, as a kid, did you like xmas eve or xmas day better?? lol
He kept complimenting me all day but at the same time his flirty teasing was so lighthearted I didn't think he was serious and he thought the same.
Things came to a head (sorry, bad pun) in the carpark when said he'd really like to kiss me - and after 20 minutes procrastination and another mug of coffee I grabbed him. Couldn't help myself, oh boy he can kiss!
Anyway, he's gone back home and so have I. We talked about it and we both know it can't go anywhere, but I've got a wonderful memory that i'm going to treasure. He made me feel more beautiful and desirable than anyone has in a very very long time.
He kept complimenting me all day but at the same time his flirty teasing was so lighthearted I didn't think he was serious and he thought the same.
Things came to a head (sorry, bad pun) in the carpark when said he'd really like to kiss me - and after 20 minutes procrastination and another mug of coffee I grabbed him. Couldn't help myself, oh boy he can kiss!
Anyway, he's gone back home and so have I. We talked about it and we both know it can't go anywhere, but I've got a wonderful memory that i'm going to treasure. He made me feel more beautiful and desirable than anyone has in a very very long time.
I know that it's been difficult for you but I really think that something good has come out of this: the part that I've highlighted. Well done you.
He kept complimenting me all day but at the same time his flirty teasing was so lighthearted I didn't think he was serious and he thought the same.
Things came to a head (sorry, bad pun) in the carpark when said he'd really like to kiss me - and after 20 minutes procrastination and another mug of coffee I grabbed him. Couldn't help myself, oh boy he can kiss!
Anyway, he's gone back home and so have I. We talked about it and we both know it can't go anywhere, but I've got a wonderful memory that i'm going to treasure. He made me feel more beautiful and desirable than anyone has in a very very long time.
This is the addiction. Hopefully you can move forward somehow now and feel happier in your own mind x
I can see how this feeling is very addictive - because right now I feel like a veritable Goddess, 50 feet tall and indestructible.
"Indestructible" is the part I'm really going to hang on to - That's the part that is going on with my own life now, I can't be responsible for OH and his hiding from the world anymore and dragging me down with him.
He refuses to admit that he has issues and that those issues are severely impacting on our DD's life, and worse on our family as a whole.
So Goddess and offspring against the World - even if it doesn't lead to the Divorce court. I've had one hell of a lift today and I'm not going to let that feeling go.
Sounds like the reality has worked out positively for you too, which is great. Harness this energy and use it for good things in your life. Indestructable is a good word, and bravo to this guy for giving you that feeling, use it well