So, I know I probably shouldn't have done but recently, I interfered in a... well I got involved in stopping one friend shagging another.
I know it's none of my business. I know they're adults and can do what they like. But she is just something else.
I've already seen her pursue one friend, and he has completely changed. He's gone from being this really sweet guy to bitter and frustrated and down. I did not want that for another friend. So I interfered.
I told her how I would feel if she did pursue him. And she ignored me, carried on but kept it secret instead, and he went along with it to stop me from being upset. Mistake. Because I found out (she's about as subtle as a brick to the face), and again I interfered, I called on him to end it, especially as he's in a relationship.
In the space of 3 months (since splitting with her husband) she has gone through 3 men (that I know of), and her ex found out about the second and threatened to break his legs. She did nothing to protect that man, and while her ex didn't act on his words, he is definitely the type that would. So yes, I intervened.
I laid it bare to my male friend, told him how I felt, explained why I was worried, told him it was ultimately his decision and not mine, of course it's not mine, I had no right to involve myself beyond the fact that I was worried. And he told me it was dealt with. Ended. No more.
And yet, I keep hearing things. They've been seen flirting. They've come out of the staffroom (we all work together) late off their breaks looking sheepish, or I'm looking for them and neither are where they should be. I've seen the looks she's given him. And despite his denial, I wonder if it's still going on.
Sometimes I wonder what is the point in me being the friend that I am - I listen to them both, I give them advice, I'm there when nobody else is, I keep their secrets - what is the point in any of that if I am repaid with lies and deviousness (is that a word?)?
I don't know, maybe I'm looking too much into this. Maybe I need to just take a step back and let them carry on and deal with the consequences themselves.
As I said, it's none of my business. Doesn't stop me caring though.