Maybe you are not referring to you or your relationship specifically, but I wonder if there is a little more underneath this for you to be supporting those views in the first place perhaps?
If it’s men in general, and this issue is wide scale like the article suggests and you believe, I am surprised that on an open forum that is very sexual by nature, that:
- the female form are supporting this and saying yes, this is how it is, or
- males in relationships on here are in agreement saying well yes, that explains exactly why I have no intimacy in my relationship
That is a ridiculous conclusion to be make!
Personally speaking, my OH has a lower sex drive than me. However, it is not often at all that she’ll play solo. We use toys together as foreplay, and we both much prefer to wait to play together.
A lower sex drive does not imply for one second that women then prefer to masturbate. Why would it?
Again, you’re not backing your argument with anything valid. Are you seriously trying to tell me there are no societal changes in twenty years? If your societal views have not changed over that period, therein lays the problem my friend!
You are ignoring elements such as the LGBT+ movement, ableism, racism, and many other 'isms that are slowly but surely changing and evolving into a far more inclusive society. That’s not to mention the outing of high powered wealthy people that thought they were entitled to do as they please, as @Knottydevil mentioned.
Young people having less sex now to twenty years ago doesn’t support that argument, and I’m sorry but for me a survey of 10,000 people in America isn’t conclusive for me. And again, it’s just numbers, there isn’t actually any context as to circumstance - the article does exactly the same as you are doing, makes assumptions.
The article also highlights:
“The study authors noted that the survey questions did not define what it means to “have sex.” The trend toward less sex might have little to do with what goes on in the bedroom; instead, it may reflect a shift toward a more narrow view of what qualifies as “sex,” they wrote.”
Which to me supports the change in societal views and the evolution around that.
Anyway, @svenbjornsson carry on banging your devastating article drum, and I’ll carry on banging with my better half, because although we may have different sized “preoptic areas”, it doesn’t stop us either enjoying ourselves and each other