My husband really wants to take me up the arse, we've tried it a few times but I'm scared its gonna hurt loads(I'm a whimp). I was just wondering if anyone's got any tips to make it as painless as possible, I really wanna try it too but like I say I'm scared! We have tried different possitions, me being drunk lol, porn (which normally gets me going) but nothing seems to be able to take the fear away
Please help!!!!!!
Start small and slow is the first advice! Lots of lube always helps, but if the problem is psychological, invest in a douche kit and make sure you're squeeky clean about an hour before you start doing anything.
Fingers and toys are always a good start, a hard man and desire don't always go too well with the small and slow!
Make sure you're comfortable with a toy around the same girth as the guy you're trying to get in, one tip to help is to buy a anal trainer kit, the vanilla kit is quite good, but the large plug is quite a big step! http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=10616
Good luck
Oh, and personally, i'd stay clear of any of the desensitising creams/lubes, listen to your body, if it hurts, stop and try something else for a few mins!
Amy wants to make sure i tell you that toys are very different to a real cock, a real one is warmer, and much more flexible, so if you do find toys difficult and inflexible, don't dispair!
yeah. lube up loads. mrsdoctorp enjoys this, but not always. it seems to be a very mood dependant activity.
i think the key lies in lube, mood, lube, bit more lube, trial with a finger, lube, and a bit of courage.
Trick to anal is to be totally relaxed and always start with a finger to get comfortable with being penetrated.
I find that sometimes it helps when you're trying to insert something, is to push against the object being inserted with your ass. Almost as if you're trying to push it out. Sounds strange, but this really helps it to slide in easily. However..... make sure there's nothing already inside you that might try and come out when you start pushing! Definately clean up thoroughly beforehand and use a douche! x
Plenty of Lube and relaxation is definatly the key, a bottle of wine may help too
Cheers for all the advice, is it as good as some people make out? I'll definately try it!
Loving the new pic strapon
If your relaxed Mel its defo as good as people make out, if your not relaxed it can be a very uncomfortable experience,
I had tried a few times and it hurt so I gave up trying, we then started from scratch with a finger etc, and afetr a bottle of wine I was sooo horny i just went for it , (i forgot the lube) so although it was good i was sore for a few days,
Ive now got lube and cant wait to do it again.
We've done the finger thing but i dont think he realises how rough he can be sometimes, maybe i should try it on my own for the first few times then suprise him?
try a small toy first hun and see how you get on with that, just take it slowly to start, youll be surprised how elasticated you are there.]
also does he use lube on his finger?? that always heps too.
not on his finger he doesnt but he has when we have tried with his cock
try it on his finger hun, it definatly help is slip in and feel more enjoyable, maybe then he could try 2 fingers making it easier for him to slip his cock in.
yeah sounds like a good idea hun thanks
yw good luck and have fun xx
I'll try (after I've stopped the tears lol)
lol,
I might sound thick (and i know i do alot of the times) but what is a douche?
its a bulb type thing that you fill with water and squirt up your bum to clear it all out,
ive never used one and defo dont plan to, and things have always been clean here,
Hi All! I was just about to ask for the same advice as sexymeI88, so luck for me I came across these comments. Sounds like great advice! I've wanted to try anal for a while now but have been putting it off. I now think that I am ready to give it a go and will use your advice to sexymeI88 to help me along. Thanks!
Hope all is going well for you sexymeI88!
Hullo ladybug!