Hi All,
I was going through a few threads and It seems to me that women are more hornier and want it more or is it me ?
Hi, I know that is definitely the case in my relationship, I am horny and yet my partner is quite often tired. 😕
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For me i want to fuck everyday and im 32 so maybe an age thing and i mean day and night but the partner isnt as keep maybe 2-3 a week if im lucky so to me the man is more wanting but i do see women who are more kinky now but mainly men i think have a bigger sex drive
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Women are more aligned to sensation/feeling. Many women long to be truly empowered, we are horny and enjoy being horny lol. Being turned on and having sexual `appetites` is great.
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tenderlovin wrote:
Hi, I know that is definitely the case in my relationship, I am horny and yet my partner is quite often tired. 😕
I wish my wife was horny and wanted it more........
It seems like I have to always make the first move.
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Women do like being valued, you know, when we feel appreication no matter how small, it helps. We come forward in the environment/setting of respect and trust.
Mind you primal passion ...yeehaw, but still if there was no resepct even in the moment, would you be ging at it lol
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I wish my husband wanted sex more, we have been together since we were teenagers and would have sex 2-3 times a week, the last few years the sex has become more infrequent sometimes only once every 6 weeks. He says it's because he is tired and more stressed with work now, he even turns down fellatio. Does this sound normal to anyone else.
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tenderlovin wrote:
I wish my husband wanted sex more, we have been together since we were teenagers and would have sex 2-3 times a week, the last few years the sex has become more infrequent sometimes only once every 6 weeks. He says it's because he is tired and more stressed with work now, he even turns down fellatio. Does this sound normal to anyone else.
Once every 6 weeks crazy !
Tiredness Isn't a excuse.........
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My thoughts exactly we are in a bit of a rut at the moment and it needs changing. Ideas welcome ☺
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The person to talk to about it is your husband, not forum users here. Sometimes people go off sex which is completely normal, and yes, tiredness is a perfectly acceptable reason, as is stress or loss of interest. You can't force someone to be more sexually active, and putting pressure on or nagging about it will make it worse not better. Sexual appetite is like anything, it can decline or increase based on many factors, age included. It may be he is also experiencing some degree of erectile issues, but as said it's him you need to discuss it with. It may end up you have to accept you aren't teenagers anymore and his sex drive isn't what it used to be, and rely more on masturbation when he isn't in the mood.
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I don't recall saying I was forcing anyone into sex or putting pressure on him, I was simply asking if anyone else has experienced this and if they had any ideas which may help us improve things. Obviously we have discussed it and he doesn't think it is a problem but it worries me.
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tenderlovin wrote:
I wish my husband wanted sex more, we have been together since we were teenagers and would have sex 2-3 times a week, the last few years the sex has become more infrequent sometimes only once every 6 weeks. He says it's because he is tired and more stressed with work now, he even turns down fellatio. Does this sound normal to anyone else.
Hi tenderlovin
I'll be brutally honest with you.
I was in a previous relationship for over 20 years and the only reason i stopped making advances and went off sex with her was because i fell out of love with her and didnt fancy her anymore.
Just out of interest do you know if your hubby watching a lot of porn?
Hope things work out for you and you get out of the rut you're in at the moment.
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It's really impossible to make a general statement like "men want it more" or "women want it more" because every individual, and every couple, is different. Things like stress, busy schedules, hormones, and lack of self-confidence, all can play a part in lowering someone's libido.
It's also important to note that what's "normal" is different for everyone. You mentioned that sex in your relationship has dropped to about once every six weeks, and Ash's immediate reaction was that it's crazy. To me, it's not so crazy. If I was in a relationship with someone who only wanted to have sex that often, I would masturbate in between, but it wouldn't be enough to make me unhappy with the relationship.
The key isn't determining what is normal for other people, but what's normal for the both of you and finding a happy compromise. So, for your partner right now, once every six weeks is normal. For you, it clearly isn't. Decide what frequency you could live with and go back to him with that. If he is unwilling to budge at all from his own level of comfort and won't meet you in the middle, then there's clearly a deeper issue than tiredness that needs to be addressed.
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the forum isnt really a true representation, most people here are horny lol
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CutieCurious wrote:
It's also important to note that what's "normal" is different for everyone. You mentioned that sex in your relationship has dropped to about once every six weeks, and Ash's immediate reaction was that it's crazy. To me, it's not so crazy. If I was in a relationship with someone who only wanted to have sex that often, I would masturbate in between, but it wouldn't be enough to make me unhappy with the relationship.
Sorry, Ash and tenderlovin - I got myself all confused at this bit and forgot whose thread it was! My post was aimed more at tenderlovin than at Ash as the OP but I don't think I made that clear first time around.
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You've probably just found more threads from women! :p No, I don't think that statement is true. You get a lot of women who want lots of sex, you get a lot of men who want lots of sex. You'll find threads from both genders saying their partner wants no sex, too much sex etc etc.Ash 123 wrote:
Hi All,
I was going through a few threads and It seems to me that women are more hornier and want it more or is it me ?
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Well I'd say it depends on time of month for me haha. My partner is ridiculously horny I mean one day he wanted sex 5 times. I'm not bloody wonder woman as much as he wishes . But then obviously other times im hornier than he is.
So I think it comes down to the person everyone has different triggers. I personally love a kilt on a man and well I've told my partner wear one of them and ill pounce on you 
So yeAh depends on the person and how sexually attracted they are to their partners
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I'm the more horney one, perhaps one day that will change
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To be honest we are very equally matched :)
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tenderlovin wrote:
I wish my husband wanted sex more, we have been together since we were teenagers and would have sex 2-3 times a week, the last few years the sex has become more infrequent sometimes only once every 6 weeks. He says it's because he is tired and more stressed with work now, he even turns down fellatio. Does this sound normal to anyone else.
Whilst it doesn't sound 'normal' to me that doesn't mean it's not normal for him. It may well be that he is more stressed & tired than before. It may be that these external factors are effecting him and how he's feeling...
I hope you get it sorted.
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