Wow I don’t even think that’s a question lol all the bloody time for me 
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Omg @FortySomethingWife sorry to hear that I don’t need a invite get me off anything hun and down and dirty so to speak
I don’t think he means to be mean … I just genuinely don’t think he’s that into me these days. Is how it is
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Yep! Aaaaall the time!!! It gets me down sometimes because I think I’m the reason she isn’t horny, like she isn’t attracted to me or something but she always try’s to assure me that isn’t the case 
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Yep I’ve had this too, made me feel crap. My first post on this forum was about this very thing. I felt like an annoying sex pest and it dented my self esteem a bit. We seem to have got through it by communicating and by me backing off a bit.
I’ve learnt that hinting at anything remotely sexual during the day while he’s working or even on his breaks, is a big no no. He just finds it annoying and like I’m putting pressure on him. He really needs to switch off from work before he’s interested in sex, but 15 years ago he was up for it constantly, he did have less demanding jobs back then though.
Have you tried talking to him about what’s going on @FortySomethingWife?
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I actually don’t wish to discuss it as I know it’ll get fired back at me with “well now you know how I felt” as he doesn’t forget … like ever.
That sounds really frustrating @FortySomethingWife. It’s difficult when feel like you can’t voice your opinions and be heard. My husband can be dismissive emotionally, when he doesn’t seem to know how to support me when I’m distressed. I literally had to spell it out to him last week.
I won’t ask any more questions as I don’t want to pry. I just wanted to say that I hear you and can relate
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I’m constantly in the mood, but have given up trying with my OH as being rejected a lot of the times is starting to take is toll on me if I’m being honest.
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Thanks there’s a lot going on in my head at the moment
@FortySomethingWife, have you by chance read this book: Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High? I know it may be out of the scope of this forum and all, but may help with breaking down the conversation. These tactics help me out, almost daily…
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I wouldn’t say either of us is more horny than the other, but when Mrs Sen has distractions the urge is pushed to the side whereas I tend to have more difficulty suppressing the desire.
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I can totally empathise with you on that one @Curious_Couple_19.
I too have given up trying to initiate sex with my long term girl friend, whom I’m still very much in love with, as over the years her sex drive has dwindled to pretty much nil. I have found the feelings of rejection, sexually, difficult to deal with but totally accept that if someone doesn’t want that intimacy they are by no means obliged to engage. Nor would I want her to have sex with me out of some kind of misconceived sense of duty.
As time has gone on I’ve thought more of the other side of my sexuality. Deep down I’ve always known I was attracted equally to both women and men and now satisfy my self through gay porn, sex toys, and my own fantasies of sex with another guy or more. Subconsciously I think this may feel like less of a betrayal maybe.
I have never nor would I be I unfaithful to my beloved soul mate but do long for that special closeness with another person. 
As a result I’m always the hornier by a long way.
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Yes we are 34m and 33f and i would like sex 2 time a day a lucky if i get it 3 times a week I’m trying to get her sex drive up to where mine is
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Wow. I thought something was wrong with me. I WANT HIM ALL THE TIME. I Get told quit don’t stop all the time.
Most definitely yes!
Buying more toys on LH and using them. OH works alot and literally can’t keep up with me. More hornier near period.
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Yes, for sure. When we were younger and carefree it was everyday and twice on Sundays. Obviously as you get older things slow down some when kids come along and life just busy.
I would still like to do it every day, but the Mrs is more 2-3 times a week these days.
One issue for her is actually clearing her mind enough to get in the mood. Thinking about her work or the kids, or chores just distracts her from feeling romantic. I suspect the same is true for many women so if you want to get her more horny for sexytime, help her out with chores etc. so she has more time to relax and de-stress.
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Over the last 10 years we are likely on a 9-12 day rotation (minus “shark week”). I’m lucky if I have sex 3 times a month. I could go every day and have also had to suppress the need often.
I did have a long conversation about sex and my needs with my wife over the last 6 months. She actually did not understand that this urge existed… The reading she did said that her sex drive should be like a hum in the back of her mind, some days quiet, others days impossible to ignore like that of traffic or a running fan.
I think her hearing is broken as if it wasn’t for me initiating sex, I would be dead inside. Our relationship is great but our sexlife is basically non-existant. That being said, if the pendulum ever swings the other way, I will be prepared…utterly shocked, but prepared.
Good luck all as she is 43 and likely on a tipping point with pre-menopausal hormones that will only do two things in my opinion 1. kill all sex drive completely (which we are at almost already) or 2. awaken something inside that makes her more interested. I guess things can only get better from here?
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That must be awful, we really feel for you.
I didn’t click like on your comment, because I don’t like it at all.
If you are doing everything to keep your sex life vibrant, you deserve the same in return.
To say that to you " you are interrupting "is hurtful and demeaning, which can never be justified. I hope your hub/ partner lives to regret it.
This is what you deserve from your hub/partner
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Thanks - things will be ok I’m sure (with time).
I know when he’s interested … well then it’ll be ok but it does feel very much as if everything must be on his terms at present.
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