hey everyone, well this is my first thread ive started on here! :|
anyway just wandering if anyone could give me some advice, u see when ever i try or do anything really sexy with my boyfriend it always goes wrong and turns out to be soooo unsexy and i just end up laughting my head off.
like the time we was having a shower togther and one of us moved and i nearly fell out lol or when i dressed up in some really sexy underwear and had the high heels on and then fell backwords on to the bed! lol theres rather a few things that ended up not being very sexy.
(i am rather accideant prone anormaly anyway)
so does anyone know of how i can be sexy with out it going wrong and stop myself looking like an idiot? lol
Not sure if this is what you wanted but the Duke of Wellington used to have a favourite phrase; "The first casualty of any battle is the plan." Now it may just be that your carefully choreographed scripts are well thought out in your mind, but sometimes it is a bit like swinging, and you cannot always allow for what the other person/people do, they are independent souls after all. The obvious answer is to fully brief the other/s but then this rather takes away from the spontaneity of what you are about.
I think it can be the spontaneity that makes these things memorable and you might want to go with that as a concept, sitting down to dinner and you disappear under the table....l'm sure you are ahead of me !!
Others will suggest texting to say come home immediately !! - whatever works.
Oh yea, laughing can lead on to playful which......... yep you got it !!
I agree with the others, laughing in itself in sexy and I think sex can be too serious so often. After all the whole seductress thing as shown on TV etc - if you tried that so seriously it would be hysterical! I'd just go with it. You can't change how accident prone you are, so don't worry. As long as you're having a good time!
I agree. My OH loves it when we have some funny times in the bedroom. I always find that if I make him laugh I get the best shag! I find laughter really sexy too. I mean if you can't have fun with your partner then who else?! Sex is taken so seriously now, with men wanting what they see in porn, and women feeling they should provide it. But tbh the last time I tried to be like a pornstar I just looked like a complete idiot, and it really didn't go down well!!
My advice: He is with you because you are you, clumsy and all, so just be yourself. When you don't feel like a fish out of water you will be much more relaxed and your inner temptress will appear in all her glory!
I think it can be the spontaneity that makes these things memorable and you might want to go with that as a concept, sitting down to dinner and you disappear under the table....l'm sure you are ahead of me !!
Hmmm, I don't think think the in-laws would be too happy about this during Sunday lunch!!!
Set your sights lower until you relax & it starts to flow naturally, go out with your fella with a semi short skirt on with no panties, throw in a Brazilian wax for double sexy! Mince round the shops/ bars with one of those remote love eggs & give him the remote.
Just sticking on a porno DVD & blowing your fella off on the sofa is pretty hot. Bringing a clit stim into the bed is easy & VERY nice. Confidence & eye contact is probably the sexiest thing you can ever do, especially if you asume control. Spontaneity is extremely hot, a quick teaser of a blow job before you go out will have him bursting with lust until he can gt back to finish the job, a cheeky crotch rub in public also works. Little whispers of 'wait till I get you home' 'I can wait for you to fuck my ass' or whatever your into will get his blood pumping out and about!
think when i did the underwear thing i was trying to hard, so dont think il bother with that one for a long time. il just wear it under my clothes and let him find it for himself :P
be bit hard to go under any tables as we both live at home still :( and im not dareing enoth to try it in a restraunt lol.
il probly be asking for some more help soon as im hopeing that were be going away for a dirty weekend so il be wanting so advice on things to take to spice it up even more :P
I dont find anything wrong with laughter in a relationship. Sex is meant to be fun and enjoyable. Its a way to get to know each other and the way each of you works. I find that if sex is too serious I do not enjoy it. Too much pressure and performance is low!!
Best advice, don't try too hard.....take it as it comes.
I have started dressing up....not the french maid type things but normal sexy clothes....stockings, suspenders, skirts, high heels.....and each time i have felt comfortable. If you are going to dress up, then be comfortable because if you do you will feel more sexy.
If you are going to use toys then make sure you both know what is going to happen. Chill a bit and just take it slow.
.....my new fella is ace.....after a lot of years with my husband I have rediscovered that sex is a good thing and I think i have found a man who can give me what i need.....we have an amazing sex life and all the other stuff which goes with it.....new experiences, we talk, we read things on here, we experiment....and if it goes wrong we laugh......because we are so comfortable together in our sexuality and how we go about things.
It will come, but I find you are going to have to be totally open and honest and talk about things.....that way you will both be ok in the things you are doing....
i dont mind laugthing in bed i mean some of it u just have to, and im very happy and comfy to do that with my bloke, just i would like for once to be... just be so f*ucking sexy and pull it off instead of landing in a heap on the bed or falling out of the shower or being nearly catched giving a bj in the bathroom on xmas eve! never seen my bf move so fast when he thought my dad was coming up the stairs! lol maybe im just not the sexy type lol.
Oh Diamonds! pmsl at the bj! You are sexy in your own way. Christ I cant do sexy in stripper heels....and i have had to practise in stockings!
How do you define sexy? In my eyes a woman/man who is confident in themselves is sexy. Doesnt matter what they are wearing or doing. If they like themsleves for what they are then they are sexy. I have a friend who i would say is extremely sexy. But she is not confident in her body and constantly covering herself up. Me? So long as i am comfortable with the person then i will show all my wobbly bits off and if they dont like it then they can up and leave! As i have said before if i like what i am wearing then nothing will stop me!
Carry yourself with confidence and love yourself. The sexy bit will follow.....
...and i am still laughing at the bj......i have to worry about the kids coming into my room when i am having a bit of diy!! Now that is worse!!
hmmm how do i define sexy? im not 100% sure, but wot i am sure about is that i would like one night/day/week ;) (lol) in which will blow his socks off and reamber it for all the right reason, were everything went smoth and i dont end up looking like a tit lol. to be able to seduce him with no miss haps! lol
AWWWW hugs babes. Difficult if you live with parents! lol.
A night in a hotel.....you plan to be there first u take your stuff with you. Get ready and he turns up later.....you open the door dressed in nothing but *insert whatever* and then you blind fold him as he walks thru the door....he glimpses you but only for a bit.
Ah things sound great to me, sounds like you've got a really good personality, I love being a bit immature and having a laugh during sex. It sounds a little odd to say this in the context of sex, but we are all just big kids really!
Ah things sound great to me, sounds like you've got a really good personality, I love being a bit immature and having a laugh during sex. It sounds a little odd to say this in the context of sex, but we are all just big kids really!
Yeah and some more than others.....at least I am trying to find the inner teenager......
i dont mind laugthing in bed i mean some of it u just have to, and im very happy and comfy to do that with my bloke, just i would like for once to be... just be so f*ucking sexy and pull it off instead of landing in a heap on the bed or falling out of the shower or being nearly catched giving a bj in the bathroom on xmas eve! never seen my bf move so fast when he thought my dad was coming up the stairs! lol maybe im just not the sexy type lol.
diamonds
Improv blow jobs are about as sexy as you can get!!! Don't sell yoursell short, your expectations sound far too high. What looks sexy on a porno was probably done in 5 takes & split scenes. Anything you try WILL be appreciated. Sexy undies, waiting on the bed 'warming yourself up' for him as he walks in is uber hot! Crawling on hands & kness (sexy outfit is extra points) over to him for a blow job is a male fantasy. Just asking to be fucked in the ass during doggy is aother mega sexy act.
AWWWW hugs babes. Difficult if you live with parents! lol.
A night in a hotel.....you plan to be there first u take your stuff with you. Get ready and he turns up later.....you open the door dressed in nothing but *insert whatever* and then you blind fold him as he walks thru the door....he glimpses you but only for a bit.
Then you do as you wish.....bliss......
JJxx
knowing me and my luck id open the door to housekeeping or something! lol
well today ive been out to the sales and ive got a really nice outfit for new years eve, i already have alot of sexy underwear to put under it and as its new years eve by the time we get home we should eaither be home alone ;) or my parents bk from there partying and be drunk and alseep! :D