bra size query

Hi Ladies and gents.

Not sure if this is the right place to ask that query but curious i have been with 3 different women with different bra sizes and had lady friends with different bra sizes. I know why us men like boobs but to women what difference does bra size make, just i have had lots of female friends and my partners talkning about how unhappy with there bra size as an example an ex was a size 32b and had such low self asteem and confidence and wanted a boob job. To me she was absoloutly stunning and i told here tried to increase her confidence on such matters but it never really helped. yet to me every woman is perfect the way they are no matter how big or small the bra size every woman is stunning in there own way. So to women who have both big and small bra size why do women have such a negative opinion of themseves in this area Is it a confidence thing??? just curious as to what women think on this subject or men who have women with confidence issues.

I was a 32aa. I grew up hating how flat chested I was. I was always the girl sounded by boy mates and herd them talking about how great the girlfriends boobs where. My lack of chest was always a big joke among the boys. So 6 years ago I got a boob job. Best decision of my life. I went up to a 34d/dd depending on the brand. The look natural and make me feel so much more confident.
My male friends where upset when they realised their ' friendly banter' had left a scaring effect on me and caused me to be so self conscious. I look more womanly, clothes for me better and I have 100 times more confidence when I'm naked since I has the operation.

Yeah, if definitely say it's a confidence issue.
But it does also go the other way around. I'm a 38E/F now and I hate my boobs. Sure, they look good in clothes but they jiggle too much naked and they've got stretch marks. They also hurt a lot and sleeping isn't an easy feat!
I bloomed early, going straight to a B when I was 10 and I got bullied so much for it. By the time all the other girls were just starting, I was a D! Big breasts run in my family with my gran being a 40GG.

Boob love is so dependant on the female. I have friends so love the fact they have small boobs and wouldn't change them for the world, as well as a few who have either had augmentation or are thinking about it. However on the flipside I have a friend who's breast are so large for her frame that she is super self conscious and wants to have them reduced. It's one of those things I think.

Can i just say a huge thank you to everyone who has shared there opinion so far i am loving the lovehoney forums i have asked all sorted of questions and no one have ever not answer your ladies who have responded are all awesome thanks for taking the time out to answer my questions. I am sorry to hear about your story though blondevixen big hugs no woman in the world deserves that at all some men are just scumbags put simply. I have never ever said anything bad about a lady about bra size cause like i mentioned i think the female form in all it's glory is one of the most beautiful and amazing things in the world no matter the size or shape.

this i think is a complex issue as to why we focus so much on this area of our bodies. i think its a social pressure, with page 3 of newspapers lads mags and porn. its now ingrained in social circles to have the 'perfect' sized breasts. all nice and pert not too big not too small. the just right size.

i think a D/DD is deemed to be the perfect cup size.

I wear a 32GG/H bra and i have a love/hate relationship with them. i love them sexually and hate them for clothes fitting.

i have considered a reduction but to me the cons are currently outweighing the pros.

I keep wanting to say Fiona Bruce.

So here we go, the news reader Fiona Bruce. No boobs probably no bra, but to me a realy atractive woman.

My sentiments entirely 'mikedhf' love em all.

thank you saucy21 and brum guy i really do appreciate all the feedback i get to question i ask and ppreciate everyone who responds to me. I do hope for more responses cant lie as i am really curious on this just i have had chats with partners and lady friends sizes are 32b, 40dd, 34dd don't have many lady friends am afraid but the ones that seemed to be the ones with the confidence issues are 32b and the 34dd they really were unconfident and had low confidence and seld asteem. so since from the comment i have had so far are you sayong then it's just as bad to have a large bra size than it is a small one as your over concious????? i do want more opinions won't lie it's one thing i have always struggled to understand is why it's so important.

amandammmm = Fiona Bruce ;) x

Having big breasts, yeah if say they're just as bad - but for different reasons usually. If you read my pervious comment, I do mention why I hate having big breasts.
Something I'd like to add is that you don't often get nice bras and lingerie for big breasts that're supportive as well as sexy. Swimwear is my worst enemy for that reason! Plus, bigger bras tend to be much more expensive.

I know of two people that have had implants. Were they lacking before? Not noticable. But both went to a DD. Both ended up divorced within the year. One turned quite flirty.

Mabe it was a underlying mental issue that they both had. Chasing rainbows.

Dawn French = big woman but atractive.

I was a 34f and now a 34dd-34e after having a child. For them being firm to not was a huge hit in the face! Although I think u should be happy with what ever you have I think some people like myself can't get to terms with the change. Even though I still have big boobs I hate the way they now look. I suppose it's because we have to live with it.
Also if a man was to lose weight for example his willy would get saggy or dramatically smaller where as women is a complete different story. Also all these magazines with women with perfect boobs don't help 😭

It's a difficult issue this one because it varies so much from woman to woman. I'm a 38E and while I love my boobs they do cause some issues. It's difficult to find a top that doesn't look like I'm trying to show off my boobs. But at the same I have friends who are an A/B cup who wish they had bigger boobs.

amandammmm huge huge huge massive hugs to you i am so so sorry to hear that you feel that why i really am is quiet upsetting to me to hear when people have such a negative opinion on such things. I really do hate the way some people are they don't give a damn about people feelings or how badly they affect them i truely am sorry you were bullied about this matter and even your family that is disgraceful. Listen up as well not just yourself Amandammmm but any woman there is nothing wrong with small breasts they are not ugly and inadequate i am guy size of boobs do not matter i notice regardless and love all of them. Plus small boobs does not make you any less sexy or attractive at all i honest wish every woman with such problems i wish i could just hug them all take all the pain away the feel about it and realise just how sexy they are. For example this this is one of my favourite celebrities and she has small boobs according to some but i think she is stunning http://hangout.altsounds.com/attachments/features/17302d1350518087-lowdown-interview-amy-lee-evanescence-amy-lee-4.jpg she is apparently a 32a. I am just saying your all beatufil ladies and amandammmm there is nothing wrong with your size i know nothing i say will convience you of that wished i could though. As for what you mentioned at the end yeah you do have a nice one if that is yourself and the pics and they do like like a nice set of undies. So further on this subject i am sorry if that seems like a rant but hate ppl who bully women about bra size gets me angry sorry don't mean to upset anyway. Amandammmm can i just ask what would you consider to be average sized??????????

ShannonMarlene wrote:

Having big breasts, yeah if say they're just as bad - but for different reasons usually. If you read my pervious comment, I do mention why I hate having big breasts.
Something I'd like to add is that you don't often get nice bras and lingerie for big breasts that're supportive as well as sexy. Swimwear is my worst enemy for that reason! Plus, bigger bras tend to be much more expensive.

I did indeed read the previous post shannonmarlene and i do value what you stated just wanted opinions from as many people as possible. Yeah shannonmarlene i do understand i buy all my partners underwear or her and yeah having a bigger bra size it is stupid difficult to find something sexy comfortable and supportive i struggle so hard to find nice sets for her i don't understant that with bra sizes either as to why they don't make things sexy no matter what your size. I AM REALLY REALL SORRY FOR THE RANT DON'T MEAN TO UPSET ANYONE JUST I DON'T LIKE PEOPLE BULLYING OVER BRA SIZES I HOPE I HAVE NOT OFFENDED ANYONE.

thanks for the input brumguy, dellboy1981 and noodleyk appreciate it, i do understand that having magazine and it plastered everywhere that someone has perfect boobs on papers and stuff really does not help at all cause if your not the same size you would feel like you can't compete and everyone will look do on you. Back on the underwear subject cause i have brought for partners with both large and small boobs they were always perfect no matter what but don't you just hate the way if you have small boobs the underwear is really plain and boring non sexy normally cause they don't cater for real life women and assume your still growing and on the flip side don't you hate it when your large as they again tend to make it all about offering support so they plain and boring and not sexy at all. Since i have brought underwear for all my partners i found this to be true if your nice right in the middle they rarely cater for making sexy underwear if your small or large i think that is wrong too every woman has the right to feel sexy no matter how big or small they are in the undies they wear. Doesn't that just get on your nerves???? gets on mine.

I'm a size 34 G/H and I can say big isn't always better . Bra's that fit properly cost an absolute fortune and big breasts tend to sag sooner. Mine look fine clothed but naked I feel concious that they're not that firm.
I think very few women are completely happy with their natural breasts and that feeling is made worse by seeing so called perfect breasts in porn and magazines.
As for bullying and making comments about a woman's breast size I think that's horrible and I don't think these people realize the long term effects on someone's self esteem that it could have.

thanks for joining the chat i started wildflower, i am sorry if i thank people too much but i really do appreciate everyone who talks and shares open and honest opinions on such subjects everyone deserves a big big hug for sharing there opinions i was honestly expected no one to response as i am fairly new here and thought it would be too personal to talk about. so for everyone who has responsed or will ever respond i give you all a huge hug you all deserve it as i really do appreciate all of you for your comments and opinions i cannot say that enough. Yeah wildflower i would never ever do that it is completly and utterly wrong causes so much damage to someone mentally and that is the worst kind of abuse is mental abuse. i really do wish everyone who has suffered bullying about bra size whether it how big or small i just wish i could hug them and take all there pain away cause no one deserves to feel that way.

I've never been well endowed in that area but I fail to see how bigger breasts would make me happier. I'm not 100% confident in my body and there are many areas I hate but it's me - It's my body and I wouldn't ever change it for anything.

do you think it would boost your conidence if you were the size you would like to be amanda?, seriously again though there is nothing wrong with the size you are now nothing at all.