Basically my question is - is a significantly older partner only a male fantasy? I find it quite sexy myself so I know its appeal, but have never heard of the female equivalent from friends/partners/exes etc. The lady siobhan is 67 and is expecting to play with 8 men all of whom are in their 20s which means at least a 37 year age gap at the most Conservative estimate! I have absolutely no prior awareness of a 67 year old male being pursued by 8 20 year old women in the same manner.
Can anyone on here comment if they’ve seen/know of women sexually desiring a considerably older male in the same way or is the older woman thing just a guy thing?
Not quite the straightforward answer you may be hoping for, but the truth is, all kinds of humans fancy all kinds of humans!
Also, the younger woman / older man thing is such a commonplace trope in popular culture because it’s quite common in life. Some women like a “daddy” figure etc.
Of course, the older guys in those relationships tend to be nicely wealthy…
I have seen quite a few docu’s where younger women were in a relationship with older men, some even had Children together.
Sugar daddy seems to be a popular thing.
If she works in porn then I suppose even more so - if porn/sex workers are catering to deliver an “older woman experience” through either the content they create or the services they offer then that is in response to a demand for it, no? But where is the equivalent response for females - does it exist? Do a significant portion of young women fantasise about sex with a considerably older man and are willing/determined to pursue that experience?
I’ve always had a thing for older men but maybe not quite such a big age gap, I find a lot of men in their 50s very attractive (I’m in my 30s so about a 20 year age gap). But it really depends on the man, I’m not saying that I’d want to be in the situation you described but with the sexes reversed, I’m only going to want to have sex with a man I’ve already met - it’s about personality for me. I’d find a guy of any age hot if he had the right voice and confidence (a dominant personality basicslly). I did once meet a guy who was about 60 when I was 25 who I found attractive but nothing came of it and I don’t think for a minute he knew. I also wouldn’t want to share him with other women I didn’t know, far too scary. I think you’d find it’s just as common for younger women to fancy older men as it is for younger men to want an older woman.
This is of course very hypothetical as I am happily married!
Thoughtful response - I suppose I’m obviously considering this primarily from my own perspective (knowing my own likes/dislikes) and from primarily male channels of consuming sex (porn/escorts) - I’ve never really read any erotica so maybe it’s something that’s explored in romance literature? Also I guess you said something key when you mentioned that your crush didn’t know for a second (you think) - it remained a fantasy that presumably you were happy to have go no further than your head? Whereas I guess if female escorts can offer it as a service /porn companies shoot content for it, it seems to be something that men are willing to pay money to see come to life - they actively want it to come to some sort of fruition? I love discussions like these!
I guess it is a thing but the stigma about old dirty men and gold diggers causes many people to not open up on the fantasy in fears of being judged wrongly or seen in a different light…
…and let’s not forget that the same dynamic is the foundation of many gay male relationships, going back to your ancient Greek gents and their teenage catemites (look it up).
