I started crossdressing in my mid 40’s, it has taken me a while to come to terms with it. Luckily I have a very supportive partner, we can talk about anything. She was very understanding and supportive.
To try and understand why I wanted to crossdress I read a lot of books on the subject. Some were helpful, and others were very bad. (The worst almost harmful book said if you crossdress you will want to transition and nothing will make you happy until you do)
The best books I read that helped me understand myself are “My husband Betty” (although a little US centric), and two books by Dr Vernon Coleman (both books are based around a survey carried out by him. One is highlights of the survey, and the other is his interpretation of the survey results).
I’m now happy dressing in private, and my partner helps me. She has helped me choose clothing that will suit my body shape, and to actually dress.
Thank you! Im in my 50’s and whilst I have been going through the buy-purge process for a number of years, I am now starting to feel happier with ‘her’. Still working out what works and doesn’t but I am more into dressing my female self in the same styles as my male version. Denim skirts vs Jeans for example. Mind you, a bit of latex never goes a miss 
Asos have quite a big selection of heels in larger sizes.
@jack3 Dont feel guilty remember you had a good time and you’re just not feeling it right now…
Was putting washing away earlier while everyone was out and there stood out a pair of red lacy French knickers, well I had the urge to put them on and it felt amazing! 
Yeah always thought about it but never gone through with it. Definitely won’t be my last time!
Welcome to the club x
There is nothing as erotic as dressing up in your own lingerie and fucking your wife … it is mind blowing
100% with you on that, nothing tops it for me 
Start by making out with her while she is still dressed and have her play with her panties or bra around your cock … tell her it feels erotic … buy her nice lingerie and do the same … bit by bit.
I guess I’m keen to bump this back to the top?
I’ve not been on the forum much recently, but looking to get back out there with a view to dating again…
I’m looking for a woman that’ll enjoy spending time with me and embrace both sides of my world.
Honestly, do such women even really exist?
@elcoh I know you’re meaning it as a joke but I get where @MySecretDesires is coming from and that’s not a very supportive comment as when you don’t fit in societies “norm” it can be tricky.
@MySecretDesires , yes, of course there are ladies out there who can accept and embrace all sides of you. I have a cousin who is a cross dresser (and looks bloody amazing when he does). I went to his wedding (to a girl) about a decade ago. By far the best and most fun wedding I’ve been to. He was in a traditional suit for the wedding but the bride’s bridesmaids were men dressed as women who looked incredible. My Mum, bless her, commented to me about how glamorous the bridesmaid’s were and how their legs went on forever! 
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She already had friends in the cross dressing community before they met so had already embraced the lifestyle but I’m sure many others can too. My main advice would be to be up front and completely open and honest from the start whether than is online or in person that way you know where you both stand straight away. I think it is harder in a relationship when things come to light later because the person feels you’ve been hiding stuff from them and kind of lied to which is a much harder problem to overcome than your lifestyle.
I know quite a few personally. So yes. Definitely 
Thanks for your considered and valuable advice… I’m opting to very carefully select who I tell for now, but it rather limits my romantic options!
While it is sensible to limit the people you tell, maybe look for a specialist cross dresser dating site. Social media sites can also be good, as long as you are careful with security settings
Primarily because they’re full of predatory entitled men that ignore everything that’s written on a profile, a handful of dominatrix types looking to find someone to humiliate and the vast majority are other trans folk who are looking for support or to hook up with each other. The few women I’ve seen on there are there to support an existing partner or offer beauty services…
I don’t want a woman that is solely into this particular kink, but one that’s generally just open minded and open to just trying things without the labels and judgement.
Yes, you need to be careful and to be able to filter out the scum. Unfortunately that’s part of becoming who you really are. I’ve still to find someone I can rely on permanently. I thought I had found someone on a social media site, but I got banned and they didn’t try to connect to me after that. It’s difficult, but I still believe there is someone for everyone. Don’t give up all options too quickly, but don’t linger too long with the wrong person x
Yes I think you’re right about trying to meet people through social media or specialist sites - it’s probably not the best route. As @Knottydevil says, there are definitely plenty of women out there who will be cool with you dressing and enjoy it.
I honestly think the best thing is to try and meet someone through normal dating sites or whatever who would be right for you in every sense. Once you’ve been together a while you will get a feel for whether they would be open to you dressing. I have had a couple of previous girlfriends where I have dropped hints or jokes about dressing in drag or dressing as a female celebrity etc to see how they react. They have reacted as though they would find it fun or hinted they would find it hot if I dressed up and then I have felt confident to be honest with them and we have taken it from there. As you say, you don’t want your dressing to define your relationship, just to be one enjoyable element of many about your relationship. I think if you find the right person for you full stop then the dressing can be part of it.