Ok here we go - NERVOUS!
My OH is very quick to cum when we have sex. I mean really quick 30-40 secs maybe, probably less. Sometimes when he is really trying it can be up to a minute but i hate that because i can just tell he's not ejoying himself as much and there is sooo much tension in the room when he has to try hard not to cum.
Now here is my issue (apart from the obvious) when i give him a BJ or handjob he doesn't cum anywhere near as quickly. Now seriously is there something wrong with me. Am i too big down there so he doesn't enjoy it and just wants to cum asap or is it just a premature ejack situation and i am not very good at BJ's and handjob's. But then how can we have a premature stiuation if it doesn't affect everything we do? I just keep questoning myself and the issue over and over again in my head becaus i can't figure it out.
I have asked him about it in the most gentle way i could but he does not talk! When i bring it up then we have tension the next time we have sex because i feel weird and i can tell he feels weird. I asked if it was me and of course he said no but he wouldn't say yes. I watch the sex inspectors and have seen them tell men to do the thing with the towel and the start and stop and he has seen and heard all this. I dont think he has done any of them as it hasn't been making a diiference if he has. So im stuck i don't know what to do.
Please men / women give me some tips to help, I just can't do this anymore. I feel so depressed :'(