Rowan wrote:
Oh, i know what the problems are. I have known problems with my joints, especially my knees and hips which are being treated.
I've tried a few different positions and am really looking for advice on positions which would take the strain off my knees and hips.
For example, i enjoy being on top but ky knees really hurt afterwards from the kneeling and my hips are punishing me from kneeling like a frog. It's the same with any position where i'm on my knees. Which sucks cos their the ones i enjoy the most.
I've tried going on my side but that seems to be quite tricky to get it right and feeling as good; both facing each other and from behind.
Thanks ^_^
I know how you feel, my joints are terrible too....
going on top is agony in long bursts, but how about only doing it for a few minutes at a time? you still get to do it, but then you can switch to a more comfy position!....
I find going on top, then leaning down over him so I'm laying on him and him doing the thrusting can make it less painful (especially for the knees!)....on a particularly bad hip day it's still a no no but worth a try!
Doggy can be less painful if you alter it...instead of all foors, lay down on your front and use a pillow to raise your bum....even more intimate and sexy than doggy with half the pain....
Sucking cock? I lie down on my side on a pillow and get my OH to put his cock in front of my mouth, can suck just as well without the knee or back pain! I also find, if he sits on a low setee then I can sit right between his legs so I am sitting more than kneeling, less painful than kneeling up whilst still having a sexy angle.
For 69 we lie side by side and I can use his leg as a head rest...this one is a little more awkward for him though.
As for which positions of most comfortable....try lying on your back but propping yourself up ever so slightly, the angle can make sore hips less painful and missionary becomes even more comfortable!
Sex on your side can work but it's tricky, particularly with joint pain....what I've found sometimes works is me going on top, then when my legs are tired, he rolls me over (SLOWLY) til we are facing each other....it's a bit awkward and we had a bit of a giggle at it, but it worked in the end!
Finally.....any position you REALLY love but is painful, try using loads of padding and do it for short periods....then you still get to do what you love! Be experimental and listen to your body - stop when it tells you to and remember to relax your muscles (you might find yourself tensing up in anticipation of pain which will only make the pain worse)! And definately consider getting refered to a less dismissive rheumy (or perhaps ask your doctor if there are any sexual therapists that have a specialism in comfortable sex!).
Good Luck!
Ax