LOL that’s also true.
And that did clear up some of the context about who knows who and how. Or didn’t know actually. Thank you 
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I think if he’s copied it from the internet then he can? It’s public information. He may be infringing copyright if he reposts it elsewhere, but for private use I think it’s covered?
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It may be against the site rules?
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To be honest I’m no expert on this so definitely do your own research, but I did find this from www.rightsofwomen.org.uk:
What is not revenge porn?
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The law also states that it is not an offence for someone to share a photograph or video of you if they believed that it had already been shared or published, with your consent and that you had been paid. For example, if there is a photograph of you on a pornographic website, someone might see it and assume you have consented to it being posted and been paid for the photo. They might then share it with someone else. That is not an offence. However if the person who originally posted the image did so without your consent, they may be guilty of an offence.
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I just found that site too and was going to post but you’ve beaten me too it @Ian_Chimp
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He’s remarkably good at that lol
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Any chance you were able to head it off and tell your mom first? (if that’s at all something you would have preferred)
Or are you providing the update because your mom told you that’s what happened? 
Not even my life and I’m so irked for what they’re trying to do. And from what you mentioned earlier about the ‘restrictions’ on your cam sessions.
I sincerely reach out a hug to you (um, a caring, non-creepy hug, and with permission . Actually I’ll just have @Kitty-Cat01 give you one for me lol)
Edit: I find it sincerely sad and irritating (probably more irritating) when people forget that they themselves are not perfect and are quick to throw out other people’s business. Like, you can’t feel good about your life unless you’re trashing someone else?
Though it may very well mean they themselves are in a miserable spot and just happened to latch onto the easiest scapegoat they can find. Just monologuing.
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As an outsider - I’d happily friend request him for the sole purpose of telling him not to act like a small-minded pathetic arsehole… what a nasty and vindictive thing to do!
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Wow, that is incredibly fucked up. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this.
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The mind boggles at the lengths some people will go to! What a totally horrible thing to do to someone.
You shouldn’t have to justify your life to all and sundry because of other people’s interference.
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What, in, the, actual, F**K?!?!?! 
Blackmail = police call imo. Illegal, immoral, and just all kinds of WTF. Sorry @Justthe2ofus2007 
I just don’t even know what to say anymore. Just awful in every sense of the word.
Edit: At the very least I got your back as a listening ear. Maybe by God’s Grace I’ll even have a good idea or two. Again, sorry
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@Justthe2ofus2007
I feel for you girl - nobody would ever want to be in the position you are in 
What will he even gain from telling your mum?
It’s so pathetic!
I don’t have any wise words but if I was to put myself in your shoes, I would own it.
You are old enough to make your own decisions in life, this enables you to provide for her grandchildren, you can still be a good mother and daughter, you aren’t doing anything illegal, or behind your husbands back.
There is no harm in what you are doing so don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise!
I think it will be wise to contact the police and find out where you stand with the situation, this could also scare him off.
If he goes ahead and tells your mum that will be devastating. Before getting into a full blown argument with her it might be a good idea to try and keep it minimal and just give her some time and space to process it before talking to her properly about it - I really hope it doesn’t come to this.
If your family are willing to lose you over this then it says a lot about them. But they will be the ones making that decision.
Please continue to share your feelings with us in the hope that we can be a listening ear and provide any comfort and positivity to you.
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Call the police if you feel up to it and drop contact after. Your children will be okay, explain to then that their cousins parents did something very horrible to you, so although its sad, you wont be able to see them anymore. As for your mum, you can’t control how she takes it, but remember you are doing nothing wrong and if she takes it badly you don’t have to talk to her.
I’m so so sorry you’re going through this. Although I’m not involved in sex work, as a gay person with homophobic family, I can very much sympathise with the pain it causes and you absolutely do not deserve any of this.
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How is he blackmailing you and what the hell does he hope to gain from any of it? You’re not doing anything illegal and it’s seems he’s already outed you to your immediate family .
I’ll be honest , he sounds like a sad waste of space and it beggars belief that your family have turned their backs on you over this .
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@Justthe2ofus2007
This situation that you find yourself in - what’s the worst that can happen?
What are you most afraid of?
Nobody is physically hurt, your children are healthy and safe, you have your husband by your side.
Don’t let them break you, they are not worth your tears x
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Phenomenally well written @Cupc8kes. I admire how you and others are able to keep your emotions more in check when replying. I get all WTF-ish. You all would make great lawyers lol
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I’m also curious what the blackmail would be. But if it’s blackmail that you’re concerned about I absolutely don’t need to know. As others have stated, from all we’ve heard there’s nothing that strikes me as anything to be especially concerned about legally. And they already tipped their hand by telling every one on the planet what they have so they’re out of cards to play the way I see it.
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@Justthe2ofus2007 I get you, please stay strong.
These things happen to test us, but at the end of the day - what will be, will be.
Sometimes we don’t have the power to change things so we have to sit back and let it unfold.
Would your mum really be prepared to lose her own grandchildren over this.
Social services - like your friend has said, as long as your children are being cared for and all their needs are being met, that is what they are interested in.
Everyone needs to earn a living, you could be doing much worse!!!
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You can and will get past this. It may feel impossible right now, but you still have the people most important to you (your kids, your husband, the friends who know and don’t judge), you can find new fulfilling relationships with people who don’t care what you do.
What they are doing to you is horrible, and it’s natural to feel awful right now, but eventually they will be out of your life and you wont need to worry about it. It’s wonderful that you want to maintain some sort of relationship with your mother for your children’s sake, but kids are hardy and they will be okay. I have no doubt it’d better for them to no longer see your mother than to have their own mother so upset and stressed about it.
The only people who are worth having in your life are the ones who bring you happiness and understanding. If you lose someone who brings you stress and sadness, then it may be hard in the short term but in the long run, you’ll feel better for losing them.
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I know it’s easy for me to say but please try not to upset yourself any further over this @Justthe2ofus2007
Even if social services were to get involved they’d soon be able to tell that there’s no worries about your kids. Plenty of people involved in adult entertainment have kids, none of what you’re doing is in anyway illegal or detrimental to the well being of your children. I doubt very much whether you’d need to prove that you haven’t met anyone.
As far as the blackmail issue goes, what’s his endgame here? What exactly does he want in return for not sending your videos to your mum? Or is he just going to send anyway, that being the case I’d get in first and tell her myself if it was me.
Yes, you’re angry and sad at the moment but you will get through this and you really don’t need idiots and stupidly judgemental people in your life.
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