We discussed tying up last night and my husband seemed very interested in trying it. He really likes the ideal of tying me up but I want to know what I will get out of it being in the receiving end? I have to admit I love taking control of him during sex whether it’s me giving him a hand job, cowgirl riding or giving him a good hard pegging. Advice please on how we make this next step on the road to sexual discovery.
Well talking is a great start.
We started with under bed restraints. They are very unassuming and easy to use and store.
From my point of view I like handing over control. I like that i have to trust my husband which i do wholeheartedly. I like that he can edge me or force orgasms. It is different everytime. We have progressed from light bondage to some more serious stuff but this is all done with the agreement of us both. I also like to see how far I can push my boundaries.
Like I said communication is key. Neither should do anything they are uncomfortable with. Always make sure restraints can be removed easily and quickly if needed. Safe words should be in place.
There are no hard fast rules. It will be a different experience and level of enjoyment for everyone. If you like it do it. If you don't- then stop xx
I hope that may help. Let us know if you decide to try it xx
I really like having the restraints used on me because I'm into the edge / ruined / post orgasm torture.
Like loving says, make sure you have a safe word, and if gagged a massive head shake as in 'NO' motion. If the safe word is used or the head shake takes place dont let it ruin the mood, stop what it is your doing and move onto something else and its soon forgotten! (I've used the safe word before and I was untied but not finished, I just didnt like that particular thing).
Also disguss before hand but if we say no, no, no or beg to stop that just makes the giver do what they are doing better or harder but always reassuring each other 'thats not the safe word' or 'you remember the safe word right?' that sort of thing. It becomes sort of a challenge to not say it and sometimes find you can go a little more than you thought. For eg our safe word is Red.
Also mess about with Wax and Ice if your looking for new sensations.
red, red, Red, REd, RED, REEEED! - Trine
Rope Bondage is Great!
I would advise doing some rudimentary research into it and learn about the inherent risks of it all. Things like tying the rope too tight, or not being able to release the receiver of rope quickly if they begin to panic can cause alot of damage to circulation, nerves etc.
That shouldnt detract from trying it ofcourse, but it is always good to stay mindful of this.
I wish you luck in your knotty adventures.
I personally think that what others have said above is awesome advice. Patience, communication and a safe word is key to success.
We are recently delving into deeping forms on bondage and absolutely loving it.
Can't wait to hear how it goes for you!
I would venture that as you are used to being the one in control then all the more reason to experiement with having to relinquish that control, as odd as that might sound. It will be a way out of your comfort zone for that reason, but if you try it once and don't like it, then nothing lost. It is a peculiar head-space to give up control completely, but it does help to be completely in the moment, I find.
If you're aren't comfortable wth being restrained straight off the bat, then how about a blindfold or having music played through earphones, that kind of sensory depravation/ blocking whilst still being able to move freely? Your husband can then do as he pleases with you, but it will feel different because you are deprived of the clues you normally receive that something is about to happen.
Whatever you choose to do, I really hope you enjoy it, best of luck.
Bondage is really just about the swapping of power, so if your partner tied you up and took control then you can allow him to express what he enjoys. A lot of people get the wrong impression though and think you just tie someone up and use them for your pleasure, that’s not what it’s about. When you have someone submitted you want them to feel like you control their pleasure, by teasing, kissing and touching the submitted partner they almost become euphoric. It’s more of a mental pleasure than a physical pleasure. So if you submit to your partner then you will get a more intense orgasm when your under control, but I would strongly suggest starting with a pair of cuffs and blindfold, and just see how it feels to take away your vision and hands, if your comfortable and enjoy it then build up a level into possibly using a rope or ankle cuffs and then if you really like it you can try the more extreme side with paddles and gags etc.
Bondage should always be done with limits too, make sure you have a safety word for both of your safety and tell your partner of the soft and hard limits. If you don’t want your butt being touched or spanking etc then let him know. It should always be a consensual and safe environment for you. One of the reasons I hate bondage in porn is how it’s percieved and how it kind of ruins the beauty of it all.
Some fantastic advice on here. Bondage is a wonderful sexual experience whether you are a 'sub or dom'. It can really spice things up in your relationship via. taking you and your partner's sexual desires to the next level.
I have to say Lovehoney offer a wonderful, wide range of bondage play equipment, toys and accessories. Have a look through the Black Friday selection and treat yourselves! - if you both decide to go ahead. Some amazing reductions!!!
I would say for each bondage session (especially for beginners), just introduce one or two things at a time and build up from there. This will enable you go both work out what you enjoy/don't enjoy individually and as a couple, and also learn your limits.
I hope this helps and have fun - even just discussing bondage!
Do let us know how things go either way. x 😉
Knight1119 wrote:
Emerald, I’m really keen to try bondage, but I only have my doll, do you think it’s worth trying out on her?
You could give it a go and the mind can create wonderful fantasies, that you can re-inact.
Also, the doll won't say back to you "I don't like this" (presuming it's not a speaking doll, lol!). If you think about it in this case, the world is your oyster. It's opened my mind up, you mentioning this Knight, and I think it's a great idea.
Just imagine the possibilities and scenarios you could create to build up to the most amazing turn-on and climax for you! A great way to experiment, and I hope you enjoy yourself!
Please let us know how you get on, I'm genuinely excited for you! 😮 😉 🌟👍 💚
You are more than welcome Knight, I'd be more than delighted to know how you get on - as I'm sure others would.
Hope you're able to treat yourself, and your beautiful doll with some exciting bondage items in the sale! - you deserve it.
Thank you for your sweet response, it always brightens my day to hear from you. x ☺ 💖 🌞
Knight it’s fun to try bondage on a doll, plenty of different positions and plus you can try all different kinky ideas and boost your confidence in the bondage world. I remember using a friends mannequin to learn how to unlatch a bra which helped me massively in the bedroom confidence department ☺️. Plus she’s not just “a doll” 😉 let her be the submissive for the night and she How she enjoys it.
LIL_KNOWN, thank you too 🙂
No problem Knight, a gag and a blindfold are always sexy accessories even if it’s just for visual effect 😉
LIL_KNOWN, thanks again, sound nice 🙂
Thank you all for the very insightful advice. We are going to give it a try on Saturday night. We have agreed to start with blindfold and ties for restraints and it’s me on the receiving end! Feeling quite excited to try this with my husband. I will let you know how we get on.
You can introduce kitchen utensils like spatula as well and roll the dice to take turns. Nothing beats the pleasure of dominating a guy who's supposed to be stronger and taller than you 
Well guys I popped my bondage cherry on Saturday night. Wow what can I say. Loved being “at the mercy” of my husband. We only used old ties and a. Blindfold but what he didto me was mind blowing. I would love to describe everything but I got into trouble with LH last time so I better not go there. Suffice to say we shall be doing it again soon. 🤗👍
Glad you enjoyed it LST. Ah yes, old ties, that is what we first used, it adds to the naughtiness factor I think.
Glad it all went well and safe and fun, just remember to take it as far as you like and keep the same rules from the softest to the hardest of sessions. Always refer back to your limits and a safety word x
Id recommend using some beginner handcuffs or underbed restraints, to begin with, if you decide to move to rope make sure you get some proper rope cutting scissors and don't forget to set up a safeword and do a lot of research beforehand.
Communication is always your best friend when trying out new things, its the only way you'll know what you both like.