My hubby has asked if I will have a threesome with another man, or he watches while the other man has me! I'm not totally saying no but not sure about it! What do you other women and men think of this? Am I being silly turning this down? Thanks xx
Unless your 100% I wouldn't do anything as u may regret it x
sassykitten;) wrote:
Unless your 100% I wouldn't do anything as u may regret it x
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Depends what you guys are happy with. We like the fantasy but would not like to do it for real. We use dildos to replicate
steevo68 wrote:
sassykitten;) wrote:
Unless your 100% I wouldn't do anything as u may regret it x
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Depends what you guys are happy with. We like the fantasy but would not like to do it for real. We use dildos to replicate
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You're not being silly, things would most likely feel forced or awkward if you went along with it not feeling totally enamoured by the idea. I'd just be honest, let him not that you're not entirely ruling it out, but not what you're looking for at the moment?
If this was something my partner wanted I'd like to be able to do it for him, but I think it would be too much for me. I do love the idea of having a threesome, however I'd just rather not risk any complications with our relationship when we are enjoying ourselves without anyone extra.
For you, if you feel confident enough to do it, feel like there will be no risk and you both want to do it, then maybe it's something you can explore comfortably together.
It's the smaller things to think about. Is there limits? Does the other man get to cum in the intimate places your husband can or also kissing and foreplay. That's my input
As some one who has, I can say honestly the experience is great but unless you are totally comfortable and both are completely honest with what you want to get out of it and your limits it is not something to rush into. You both need to consider all the possible outcomes it needs to be something you both want to do.
Can i ask was your experience with your husband and another man? How did you approach the points u asked in my previous postSaphie21 wrote:
As some one who has, I can say honestly the experience is great but unless you are totally comfortable and both are completely honest with what you want to get out of it and your limits it is not something to rush into. You both need to consider all the possible outcomes it needs to be something you both want to do.
Hi I would like to tell you about my ex-wife and me. We were together 8 years before we decided to marry and we had been married 10 years. My ex-wife was 20 years younger than I was. although there was this age difference I loved her dearly. To keep ourselves happy and entertained we met some great couples and one or two singles. Of course we also met the arse-holes. We stayed together for 18 years because over this time we built a strong bond we knew that no matter who we met be it male or female at the end of the day we left together. We started by going to an adult themed night club... don't bother with sleezy places... look on the net at Anastasia in Birmingham. This place is very well run... If you do not want to be taken advantage of you just said "no thanks" and you were left alone. If on the other hand you wanted action then go for it.
The best advice I can give you is chose carefully and chose together. Be open minded to what you want to happen and remember the person you are inviting to play with has fantasies too so don't ignore them. One last thing after you have done the great deed talk about it when your alone it is exciting. Have fun xxx
FlexyBexyXXX wrote:
steevo68 wrote:
sassykitten;) wrote:
Unless your 100% I wouldn't do anything as u may regret it x
+1
Depends what you guys are happy with. We like the fantasy but would not like to do it for real. We use dildos to replicate
+1
You're not being silly, things would most likely feel forced or awkward if you went along with it not feeling totally enamoured by the idea. I'd just be honest, let him not that you're not entirely ruling it out, but not what you're looking for at the moment?
I agree with the others here.Adding another party could potentially have long term implications to your relationship.IMO it just playing with fire.
Both of you have to be 100%.sure that you really want to do this as it's the kind of thing that could ruin a relationship.
Its all very well fantasising about adding someone else into your sex life but sometimes fantasy doesn't live up to reality .
A threesome with another man is my biggest fantasy but it'll probably stay a fantasy as I wouldn't want to risk my marriage.
And no , you're not being silly to think very carefully about it cos once it's done you can't undo it x
Thanks for all the advice. It's given us a lot to think about. Xx
often thought about it, discussed it rarely. personaly i think its something that should be kept a fantasy
I only wish an ex would have offered for me to have sex someone else... especially when our sex was so.... bad.
I'd of snapped it up!
Just make sure, if you do... he doesn't use it against you later "yeah well you fucked another man" make sure you're very sure of what you choose before hand. That you trust your man and you at least kinda trust the other guy.
Ink and Kink wrote:
I only wish an ex would have offered for me to have sex someone else... especially when our sex was so.... bad.
I'd of snapped it up!Just make sure, if you do... he doesn't use it against you later "yeah well you fucked another man" make sure you're very sure of what you choose before hand. That you trust your man and you at least kinda trust the other guy. Safe, sane, consensual.
Meant to edit my post. .. not quote it... blasted technology
It's all about communication I think. This is obviously a fantasy of your husband's which I'm guessing he's seen on porn.
As others have suggested perhaps try with a dildo first and talk about what how it was for both of you. Then if you still want to go futher try a club and flirt but afree before hand not to go the whole way.Talk again and if you're both still happy then you could go the whole way.
This is something I'd love to see my OH do, but it's not for her - so for us that will remain my fantasy that we joke about from time to time.
I hope it goes well for you.
I wouldnt.
I just imagine that if a man asked his partner to sleep with another man so he could watch (if it was him bringing it up and not the woman) then it just opens to door to allow him to sleep with other women.
if the woman went along with the fantasy then she wouldnt really be able to object to the man doing the same if he wished and thats where i think these things go wrong.
I think it largely depends on why he wants this to happen and what you both feel you might gain from it. Lots and lots of communication prior to it happening would be key.
This is a very, very popular desire and if you are both into it then it could be an amazing experience. I spend a lot of time with people who are kinky/fetishists and this is explored regularly within that community. It isn't always a total disaster.
As someone who has been sexual with two men at once I can confirm it is hot as hell, however I know both the guys on a friendship level which I think helps a lot.
As for it being a door for him to see other women which has been mentioned, I think that's doubtful, I think men who want to sleep with other women will just do it. I can't see that going through watching another man have sex with your partner as the easiest route to that.
What have been his comments regarding why he would enjoy this?
sistahunny wrote:
Yes but you were not in a relationship with one of them, that's what makes it different, and 'it's not always a total disaster' from someone with experience, is not a vote of confidence. I have led a very narrow existence, sexually and I am really grateful to people like you, because I had no idea it was a common idea and am trying to broaden my knowledge. I am fully supportive of people enjoying sex anyway they choose.
But she seems uncomfortable with the idea, and that's why I left a forceful negative comment.
My own experience was one tiny part of my comment, the majority of people I know who have indulged in this are in fact involved in relationships. Maybe my own lifestyle is too far away from the OP's for my comments to be of use though. I do however think it would be helpful to have more information so more balanced advice can be give. It's not really as simple as do or don't, there are lots of factors to be considered in a decision like this. Or so I believe.