Never had a threesome with two guys but...I have been the 'spare part' in a couples weekend antics which I enjoyed. This went on quite regular for about a year without any problems, but I saw it come between them eventually and it just became so complicated. I just guess their relationship wasnt as secure as they thought.
Ive also had a threesome in my current relationship, my bf is very shy and wouldnt like anything planned or contrived so it happened quite naturally when a friend and I got drunk one night and started messing around. He didnt touch her , (I didnt tell him not to but I think he knew I wouldnt have wanted him to)
After seeing the trouble that threesomes can create in even the most secure of relationships I wpouldnt want him to ever fully participate. So as a summary -
if you are the 'third party' go ahead! have some fun, I had some amazing times! but if you are looking to bring someone into your own relationship then proceed with caution!
One other thing-whatever you do ladys pleeeeease dont ever have a threesome just beacause 'its your boyfriends fantasy' I really hate hearing this, why jeaporadise your relationship in that way by doing something you are not 100% up for? I would never kiss a girl,let along go down on her just for a guys enjoyment....its for mine too
Done and enjoyed - FFM though no penetration between the mr and the other girl... not at my request, at her husbands... sadly. No jealousy/issues. Had a lot of fun... oral & fisting off her while I gave the mr a blowjob? Yeah, that worked for me!
Before and since then we've each been involved to varying degrees with other people individually and practice ethical non monogamy and more recently have recongised we are open to poly, so we aren't really coming at it from a mono couple perspective though.
I really don't think I could do this being married, I'd be too worried that jealousy would build in either myself or my wife, although we have talked about FFM and this would be the most likely version of a threesome to ever happen... Maybe one day if the situation arises, but it's definitely something we're not planning on trying for now...
The first was with friends and we were very drunk and curious, it was ok.
The second was with my OH and another girl, I didn't enjoy it purely because she blatantly changed her mind about being with a girl once the OH got involved and I was VERY aware she was wanting him and nothing to do with me.
The rest have been with 2 men OH and another bloke. I was curious about DP and got it. I've had great fun when I have been the only girl in the trio.
We've had some fails but mainly because the guy joining us thought he was more experienced than he was.
I organise all the meetings as Im fussier than the OH, we're always safe and I choose everyone that joins us!
I really don't think I could do this being married, I'd be too worried that jealousy would build in either myself or my wife, although we have talked about FFM and this would be the most likely version of a threesome to ever happen... Maybe one day if the situation arises, but it's definitely something we're not planning on trying for now...
This is one reason I dont let other woman into the room, I dont find it sexy or dirty watching my OH fuck another girl, it seems to be a more porno view that he takes and loves the real live porn as i admit i'm a pretty dirty bitch in general.
Its not something to go into without talking abouto things fully and airing concerns.
Me and the OH have talked about FFM a lot in the past and again recently with a slight twist tho. The two girls can play with each other as much as they like but I would only have penetration with my OH. As we want it all to be about my OH geting ravished and I wouldnt feel comfortable being with another girl anyway. She has always been curious about being with a girl and I would love for her to get to explore this and to be there when she did. It would also be a huge turn on for me to watch her fulfill her fantasies. For some reason I dont feel threatened by another girl pleasing her however I dont think I would want to see her with another man. At the moment FFM is something we fantasise If anything ever comes of it who knows.
Me and the OH have talked about FFM a lot in the past and again recently with a slight twist tho. The two girls can play with each other as much as they like but I would only have penetration with my OH. As we want it all to be about my OH geting ravished and I wouldnt feel comfortable being with another girl anyway. She has always been curious about being with a girl and I would love for her to get to explore this and to be there when she did. It would also be a huge turn on for me to watch her fulfill her fantasies. For some reason I dont feel threatened by another girl pleasing her however I dont think I would want to see her with another man. At the moment FFM is something we fantasise If anything ever comes of it who knows.
This is more common than you think :) I think we had one meet where it was a couple but she only wanted her OH to fuck her, but she happily performed oral on all of us.
Me and the OH have talked about FFM a lot in the past and again recently with a slight twist tho. The two girls can play with each other as much as they like but I would only have penetration with my OH. As we want it all to be about my OH geting ravished and I wouldnt feel comfortable being with another girl anyway. She has always been curious about being with a girl and I would love for her to get to explore this and to be there when she did. It would also be a huge turn on for me to watch her fulfill her fantasies. For some reason I dont feel threatened by another girl pleasing her however I dont think I would want to see her with another man. At the moment FFM is something we fantasise If anything ever comes of it who knows.
This is more common than you think :) I think we had one meet where it was a couple but she only wanted her OH to fuck her, but she happily performed oral on all of us.
Ah ok well im glad to hear its not that uncommon :-) We are total novices when it comes to involving others so don't really have a clue what goes on or what people are in to. We wouldnt be comfortable involving a girl we know personally as would could lead to complications in the future. The problem we have is we wouldnt know how to meet someone for it or even where to look. It would also have to be someone we felt comfortable with too so there would be no pressure if that makes sense
Finding a girl is actually quite difficult! I only choose strangers and ones I feel won't annoy me after :) Craigslist and fab swingers are two good places, fabs is quite good. I'd say talk about it lay rules and talk properly before doing anything!
For most couples I'm sure it never gets beyond an idea.
I wish I had experienced a threesome in my single days.
I don't think it's something I could do with my OH, we are very settled with a child and I wouldn't want to risk destroying what we have (not that we've ever discussed it!)
I'm pretty sure jealousy would come in to it for me.
we have had many 3somes the sex is great my wife as a high sex drive and loves to be pleasured by two men,she as had 3somes with other couples and 2 other men,i am not jealous and encourage her to enjoy herself,we have lost count how many 3somes she as had over the past 42 years,i am 62 she is 60 and still we enjoy a full and exciting sex life.
Finding a girl is actually quite difficult! I only choose strangers and ones I feel won't annoy me after :)
Craigslist and fab swingers are two good places, fabs is quite good. I'd say talk about it lay rules and talk properly before doing anything!
For most couples I'm sure it never gets beyond an idea.
Ok great thanks we will have a look, and take our time before deciding anything
Proudwoody, make sure you and your partner are on the same page about everything. When I arrange I always give the other girl a few days to process as they are more likely to change their mind.
We have tried 1 real threesome though only going as far as a mmf with only oral on the other guy from my oh, I dont know how i feel about letting another man have full on sex with her as of yet but i'm sure it will come, during our one incounter i know i would of let him penetrate her but i doubt i would of let him have full control and have full on sex,
Though in my head i want this i find it difficult to let it happen, but we will see and both agreed on taking things little steps at a time :)
As always i do have man worrys like will i get it up, what happens if i dont and the other guy does and what if he is better than me lol.
As for ffm we both want this but it seems impossible to find a female wanting this even if only on f2f and me and oh only basis :( . i know Vi wants to see me with another women but apart from oral i think i would be more interested in seeing her with a fem and me occ joining in :)
being picky also does not help we get alot of flack from ppl on places like FAB for being picky i.e wanting alternative looking ppl, they seem to believe that because we are swingers or want to be swingers we should just have sex with anyone.
I think if you go in with the feeling you will find it hard you will. At least An hour before you can see we start to cut emotions off and I call it my porn face goes on! It's so separate to our love making in my opinion.
We were so nervous and with the fit of giggles we even counting down the hours then minutes but in the end it was fine better then i expected, but i can imagine we will always be like that,
we found it hard knowing how to start things off after the inital Hellos etc
Proudwoody, make sure you and your partner are on the same page about everything. When I arrange I always give the other girl a few days to process as they are more likely to change their mind.
thank you occhiverdi, we will do, we will talk very thoroughly about it and make sure what limits there are and what we are comfortable with before deciding if we do anything. If there is any doubt from either of us then it wont happen.
We were so nervous and with the fit of giggles we even counting down the hours then minutes but in the end it was fine better then i expected, but i can imagine we will always be like that,
we found it hard knowing how to start things off after the inital Hellos etc
haha yes I know it well.... we've spent upto 2 hours chatting!!!
Haven't tried but really want to try both MMF and FFM, the thought of both turns me on a great deal. One day it will happen naturally rather than planned.
I have fantasized about a threesome. I dont ever see it happening as i have spoken to my husband about it but its a no go, not even MFF. If he ever changes his mind i would like to consider it.
