I'd be really interested to hear from anyone here who has had, or whose partner has had, a vasectomy, and how it's affected you/your relationship.
My partner and I went to the doctor a few days ago to ask about the procedure because neither of us have ever wanted kids. We'd also read that it's difficult to get a vasectomy done on the NHS until a certain age, so thought it was best to express an interest early on to speed things up in the longrun.
We kind of feel like it's only a matter of time until we're unlucky and I get pregnant and have to have an abortion which would obviously be a major stress. I wouldn't say that we're especially unsafe with sex because he doesn't cum inside, but we also don't use anything because condoms feel bad for us, and a lot of oral contraceptives are out for me because of increased stroke risk. I'm also just generally not happy with using a hormonal contraceptive because I already have mood issues that have taken years to get on track and I'd hate to get totally thrown by medication. We've been carrying on this way for years now but feel like eventually something will happen, or even if it doesn't that we'll have spent years holding back sexually and worrying because of pregnancy fears. It would be really silly and frustrating to get to 35, 40, when the doctor said he performs most vasectomies, and realise that we could have done it now and had all of those years not having to worry about it.
I'm 25 and he's 26, so pretty young in the scheme of things, so the doctor is kind of reserved about performing the surgery, but has allowed my partner to sign the consent form with the idea that we go away and think about it, but he'll allow my partner to book in for the surgery any time from now. My partner seems pretty sure about it, but a little bit of me does worry that perhaps it's somewhat my influence and he wouldn't be so set about it without me. But maybe that's self-centred to think, since he's a very strong-willed person anyway and not the sort of person not to know his own mind.
The doctor suggested googling "I regret my vasectomy" because apparently the younger someone is when they get it done, the more likely it is that they'll regret it in the future, but I thought that this approach might be a bit skewed, so I'd love to hear from anyone who has any experience with it at all. One of the things I'm most worried about for him is that he might be one of the unlucky people who experiences ongoing pain. We're so happy with everything in general that it would be horrible to have something that's supposed to improve life cause a problem like that.
Anyway, would love to hear any thoughts or experiences :)