What do you think about swinging?

[Loli75]

We are thinking for a long time to visit a swinger club but will help some advice

[anon8189768]

I was at the playground with my son the other day and the kid two swings over thought he could go higher than me. Did not work. I’m still the playground champion.

Ok, jokes aside, here’s my actual advice:

As far as “adult swinging”, I think it would be good to consider if you “really want to” if that makes sense.

Saw a post about a week ago where the couple tried it (well, hotwifing specifically) and the 3rd party guy was bigger than hubby and hubby got jealous at his size and also that his wife was really getting into it.

The both started out “really wanting it” but after it caused significant marital issues and not even sure if the marriage survived.

Just something to consider. May seem fun but it could end up being devastating.

That being said, if it’s something for you then do what you want Can be great if you both enjoy it and you find the right couple to swing with.

As far as personal experience, I have none unfortunately. Good luck whatever you decide

[Loli75]

Thanks for your advise

[Cupc8kes]

Hi @Loli75
What type of advice are you looking for.

Whether it’s a good idea?
Or how to go about it?

[Loli75]

How to go about it

[Cupc8kes]

Here are some previous threads about swinging which you may find useful:

Swinging

Just starting this thread again as the old one appears broken and my post on there can't be seen. Me and my oh have recently been talking that we'd like to have sex with other people in the room watching. We both like public encounters and the risk of being caught or actually being caught on one occasion is a massive turn on for us. Now we'd like to take it a stage further and do it with others doing the same. We're not into swinging as such in that neither of us wants to see t…

Soft swinging

Isn't this more just exhibitionism rather than any kind of swinging? To me the idea of "soft" swinging would perhaps be some mutual snogging and fondling, touching and caressing in a swap or group environment, without any actual intercourse. In any case, have you considered going on chaturbate or similar cam site? Sex in front of other people through a screen rather than in the room itself might be way to step towards/work upto it? It's certainly easier to arrange/organise than doing it in …

Advice on swinging

Me and my partner are lookin at gettin into swingin and lookin for the best way to start. It's somethin we have talked about for a while now and have decided the time is right. And tips on where to start

I don’t know which country you are in but you should be able to find a swingers website to join.

[Loli75]

Cup8kes thank you
We moved to England 2 years ago

[anon8189768]

Also it might be good, if you haven’t already, to have a talk about exactly what you both think “swinging” is and what you each expect from a swinging session.

If you’re synchronized and have clear understandings about what’s ok and what’s not then it will help ensure there aren’t any relationship crushing “… But I thought this or that…” or “I didn’t think THAT was going to happen.” items that pop up.

Full disclosure and communication needs to happen. If there are any “what about this?” questions on either side it could get awkward in a hurry.

Also I would recommend having it clear that if either of you wants out of swinging, that it’s clear and that you support each other.

Swinging can be great but it’s can also go wrong quick. Guess that’s all I’m saying.

[anon8189768]

… Aaand @Cupc8kes just literally did everything better than me Gonna eat my popcorn and stop now

[Loli75]

We have discussed many times and it is something that looks like it turns us on

[Wifelover96]

I listen to a lot of pod cast and their advice is open communication with each other and do your homework before you try it there alot of great podcasts from swingers so give them a listen they always give advice for people who think they might want to try this lifestyle good luck

[Loli75]

Thanks

[Cupc8kes]

Yes like @Wifelover96 says, there’s a podcast called ‘bed hoppers’ which is pretty informative.

One of UKs most popular sites is called fabswingers

[Wifelover96]

@Cupc8kes Front porch swingers is a great one in the US

[Diggerman_Baz]

Once had a couple stay in our airbnb, took us by shock when asked if we’d be interested in swinging! The fella found my missus attractive, made me a wee bit wary of them. Said thanks but no.
Have had them back a few times, nothing more has been said.

[Foxylealover]

Myself and @FoxyLea87 are taking our first steps into swinging, we discussed it for a long period before taking the leap, we have registered with fab, and will be attending a club once they re open.

[Cupc8kes]

@Foxylealover
We’re in the same position.
Have booked our first club night in June

[Purring-Pussy]

All good advise above. If you decide on a club, perhaps one with a night club feel to it would be a good starter. I can recommend Xtasia, Townhouse and Vanilla Alternative. Do some research with various club websites and remember communication, communication, communication.

[Newton27]

Me and my partner have spoke about this a few times but we never actually take the step to get on sites and due to covid you can’t meet up atm.
We have a friend who is/was a swinger and he’s told us all about it and it does seem something we would like but it’s taking that first step

[Loli75]

Thank everyone for the advice